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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 27, 2006 8:51:52 GMT -5
Would you keep them or what? I mean anything from stuffed animals to CD's, DVD's to jewelry. I am presently upset with a male friend of mine and have been seriously considering mailing his shyt back to him
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Post by Blaque on Nov 27, 2006 9:23:27 GMT -5
I would put the items away some place so that you don't have to be reminded. Chances are, you won't always be angry with this person.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 27, 2006 9:26:54 GMT -5
gm okay what about presents from any ex? I still have a stuffed bear from one ex, a stuffed buffalo (lol) from another, a watch from someone else.....
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Post by Blaque on Nov 27, 2006 10:13:11 GMT -5
These men gave you those things because they cared about you. I think you should keep them. There was a man that I HATED for a long time. I wanted to burn the one little raggedy gift that he gave me. But I don't hate him any more and I'm glad I held on to it. I can even smile and remember the good times without wanting to throw darts at it.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 27, 2006 10:16:38 GMT -5
These men gave you those things because they cared about you. I think you should keep them. There was a man that I HATED for a long time. I wanted to burn the one little raggedy gift that he gave me. But I don't hate him any more and I'm glad I held on to it. I can even smile and remember the good times without wanting to throw darts at it. at raggedy gift and not throwing darts at it. I'll think about whether to ship them back or not.
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Post by drok9 on Nov 27, 2006 23:18:30 GMT -5
Once I move on, so does his things. I have no problem donating them since I no longer need or want them.
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Post by Sista Chi on Nov 27, 2006 23:42:33 GMT -5
I agree with Blaque. But if you get married, I would see, let those things be donated or pawned or given away.
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Post by Blaque on Nov 28, 2006 10:45:10 GMT -5
Lois, just give it some thought and make a decision when you aren't upset with him...there are times when you're not upset with him, right? Don't send the gifts back out of spite. If anything, TALK TO YOUR FRIEND AND RESOLVE THE ISSUES.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 28, 2006 11:12:58 GMT -5
Lois, just give it some thought and make a decision when you aren't upset with him...there are times when you're not upset with him, right? Don't send the gifts back out of spite. If anything, TALK TO YOUR FRIEND AND RESOLVE THE ISSUES. Ms< thank you for your opinion but I know deep down that those issues will never be resolved. Hell, I kept other presents, I MIGHT keep his too.
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Post by Blaque on Nov 28, 2006 12:15:48 GMT -5
Allow me one last comment. I know you didn’t ask for my advice, but you know me… Sometimes resolving a problem is as simple as letting go. Life is really too short to hold on to negative energy.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 28, 2006 12:33:57 GMT -5
Allow me one last comment. I know you didn’t ask for my advice, but you know me… Sometimes resolving a problem is as simple as letting go. Life is really too short to hold on to negative energy. It might sound strange but I might have to let go of those gifts in order to let go of the negativity I feel towards him.
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Post by Blaque on Nov 28, 2006 14:14:16 GMT -5
It's that deep? Do whatever brings you the most peace. I've experienced a lot of death and loss recently. We should enjoy the time that we have here. Holding on to negative feelings is such a waste of time and energy.
If it's that serious, give the items to Goodwil and then let go of the bad feelings.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 29, 2006 9:12:43 GMT -5
Last time I will approach this topic THE SHYT IS GOING BACK! *the mad face isnt towards you, Blaque*
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Post by vlm123 on Nov 29, 2006 11:28:25 GMT -5
I'm that way, too - if I have gifts or pictures of an ex, whether it be ex-friend or ex-boyfriend, they must go. I have to get rid of all the stuff that reminds me of that person, or I will hold on to anger and negative stuff regarding that person. It's like a cleansing process for me.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 29, 2006 11:32:17 GMT -5
I'm that way, too - if I have gifts or pictures of an ex, whether it be ex-friend or ex-boyfriend, they must go. I have to get rid of all the stuff that reminds me of that person, or I will hold on to anger and negative stuff regarding that person. It's like a cleansing process for me. Better yet, on New Year's Day, write down the names of all the people who have hurt you in the past and present, put the sheet of paper in a pot and burn it. You'll feel SO MUCH BETTER and have a fresh new start to your the new year. good idea, girl ....this shyt has gone over the top
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