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Post by Blaque on Feb 14, 2007 17:27:45 GMT -5
I can honestly say that I am not a jealous person. I am woman who finds beauty in all my Black sisters. But I saw this on another forum and thought it was a very good question:
As we all know, society, the media, and even those around us, has made it hard to accept ourselves as the beautiful, gorgeous, sexy, intelligent, black women we know that we are.
How do you keep from being jealous or comparing yourselves to other women on the job, friends, family, or attractive women in general?
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Feb 15, 2007 10:53:38 GMT -5
I keep from comparing myself by first having self love and a strong self esteem that took some time to build. I know that also beauty is only skin deep so is I am lacking something outside I know God has blessed me inside with a good heart.
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Post by sweetpie on Feb 16, 2007 8:04:05 GMT -5
Jealousy is a wasted emotion... it happens.
You never know who you attract. Some of the most beautiful women have men that cheat on them. That goes to show you that it is not just beauty but a certain sexiness or the other person may have the gift of listening or even being smart. Attractive attributes vary in each person. I don't think of myself as the jealous type but for one I have not to my knowledge had the experience of dealing with a man that has brought that to me. This face is what I have to work with I've known her for a long time. On occasion I have felt the twinge but most likely what I think is beautiful is not the same to someone else, physical beauty is the initial attractor but to stand on its own it is nothing and without the benefit of a good personality it falls flat. It seems to be important in this society which is why women are in constant competition with each other. It doesn't hurt to improve your natural appearance get your hair done, eat right, exercise or whatever. I don't know about cosmetic surgery though, people involved in accidents or something like that it is okay of course. But we will never be satisfied. It doesn't behoove anyone to wish they were someone else but it happens all of the time.
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Post by Blaque on Feb 16, 2007 11:00:29 GMT -5
Some women are jealous of other women and it has nothing to do with the men in their lives. Some women can just look at another sister and feel jealous or insecure. That’s what I was really speaking about.
If I see a beautiful sister, I compliment her. If one of my co-workers have on something nice I tell her.
But there are women who can’t bring themselves to do that because of their own insecurities.
The older I get, the more comfortable I am with me. I have grown to love my curves instead of obsessing over my weight. I will never be a size 6 again, and I accept that. All I can do is rock the hell out of this size 14 and go on with my life.
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Post by sweetpie on Feb 16, 2007 19:28:22 GMT -5
I thought that was what you were referring to but I look at other women and I see what I think their attractive feature is and think well that is nice but I understand that I am what I am and I just try to do my best with myself.
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Post by drok9 on Feb 16, 2007 21:11:26 GMT -5
I am not the jealous type but I have found myself comparing. I have no problem complimenting another sister though.
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