Post by vlm123 on Apr 17, 2007 11:33:34 GMT -5
I began e-mailing a co-worker to mostly complain about work and another co-worker of whom neither of us likes. We went back and forth through e-mail then one day, if I remember correctly, she asked if she could call me at home, and I agreed that she could. When she called me at home, we began chatting about work-related issues, but sooner or later, we began to run out of things to talk about at work, and then, she just began pouring her heart out to me, revealing lots of personal information about herself. I listened to her, but I really didn’t reveal much personal info about myself because I didn’t feel comfortable talking about certain subjects with her, as she’s a co-worker.
At one point, I thought at she and I could be friends, and I called her a few times and chatted about things, but then I decided to change my mind and stick to my “Never become friends with a co-worker!” rule. I have no problem communicating with her via work e-mail, but that’s about as far as I wish to take it. She still thinks we’re buddies, however, and wants to call all the time and meet up with me, but I do not want this. She e-mailed me at work yesterday wanting to call, and I told her she could, but when the phone rang and I looked at the caller ID and saw it was her, I didn’t answer the call. She left a message for me, but I didn’t even bother listening to it and promptly deleted it. In the beginning, her calls were frequent and one time, she called me past 10 o’clock at night, which is a no-no, unless it’s a very close friend or a family member. The worst part about it is I’ve been fibbing to her about not answering her calls. UGH! This has happened to me before, where people just ignore my calls or shut me out, and I know how it feels, and it's not a good feeling. At the same time, I can understand why people do it - it's not that I don’t know what to say, it's just that I know how she may react. She’s hypersensitive and cries at the drop of a hat. She has very few friends and kinda latched on to me really quickly, which I didn’t expect, and it's harder to blow her off when she's a co-worker.
How can I tell this co-worker with whom I still have to communicate I don’t want to be her friend???
At one point, I thought at she and I could be friends, and I called her a few times and chatted about things, but then I decided to change my mind and stick to my “Never become friends with a co-worker!” rule. I have no problem communicating with her via work e-mail, but that’s about as far as I wish to take it. She still thinks we’re buddies, however, and wants to call all the time and meet up with me, but I do not want this. She e-mailed me at work yesterday wanting to call, and I told her she could, but when the phone rang and I looked at the caller ID and saw it was her, I didn’t answer the call. She left a message for me, but I didn’t even bother listening to it and promptly deleted it. In the beginning, her calls were frequent and one time, she called me past 10 o’clock at night, which is a no-no, unless it’s a very close friend or a family member. The worst part about it is I’ve been fibbing to her about not answering her calls. UGH! This has happened to me before, where people just ignore my calls or shut me out, and I know how it feels, and it's not a good feeling. At the same time, I can understand why people do it - it's not that I don’t know what to say, it's just that I know how she may react. She’s hypersensitive and cries at the drop of a hat. She has very few friends and kinda latched on to me really quickly, which I didn’t expect, and it's harder to blow her off when she's a co-worker.
How can I tell this co-worker with whom I still have to communicate I don’t want to be her friend???