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Post by Blaque on Jun 3, 2006 11:08:18 GMT -5
Have you or would you allow your partner to move in if you had children in the home? I've had a few live-in relationships but now that I have a son, it's a whole new ballgame. I don't think I could do it again.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 3, 2006 14:07:26 GMT -5
Again ,it's about what you need!!!!!!!!!! versus, what you want!!!! once you figure that out, the question is easy. And to answer you question DIrectly!! Ive had women move in with me, and it didn't work out because we had different ideas, of what our roles wer going to be, and in my cases, they thought I was going to be a MICKEY MOUSE DAD!! and all they had to do is give me azz and feed me.!! And mine you, I was also doing more in areas , that there own dads, never addressed. We would talk about what was going to happen, and it would last for a month or two, then they would slide right back into thoughs BAD habits . *You the man !!!!you are suppose to be handling our own bussiness needless to say, they and there kids are out of my life!!..
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 3, 2006 18:14:18 GMT -5
I was in a similar situation, dude. Here I was, a broke college student and my then girlfriend was wanting me to step up to the plate when it came to her son. I told her to go find his deadbeat daddy.
We never lived together though....and thank goodness.
I will never shack up with any woman, even if I was to get engaged.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 4, 2006 8:00:19 GMT -5
I was in a similar situation, dude. Here I was, a broke college student and my then girlfriend was wanting me to step up to the plate when it came to her son. I told her to go find his deadbeat daddy. We never lived together though....and thank goodness. I will never shack up with any woman, even if I was to get engaged. yeah, and don't get me wrong, you are trying to better yourlife, therefore bettering hers, it makes no sense at all.
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Post by Blaque on Jun 4, 2006 8:07:27 GMT -5
I'm really surprised that women allow men to come in and out of their children's lives. Just because I date a man, that doesn't make that man my son's father. He doesn't need to be exposed to everyone I date. And no one is living with me under any circumstances.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 4, 2006 8:22:08 GMT -5
I'm really surprised that women allow men to come in and out of their children's lives. Just because I date a man, that doesn't make that man my son's father. He doesn't need to be exposed to everyone I date. And no one is living with me under any circumstances. The problem isn't you msblaque, the problem is the lies told , by some women, to keep some type of status, about there parenting. A lot of women are just over whelmed, and as soon as they feel they have a chance to off load some of that pressure!! they do, and most do it too fast!! and the men they are with, are like WHOOOAAA, not so fast!!!. I mean I don't mine helping out, but i also don't want to feel force to do something, i haven't even had a chance to really think about, like really being a parent!!!! i mean anybody can step in for a minute!!! but a life time, and remember this; first impression are also, for other things other then personality, and looks!!!!
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Post by Blaque on Jun 4, 2006 8:35:57 GMT -5
I know how overwhelming it is to be a single parent. But children are impressionable. If every man that a woman thinks she's in love with ends up staying the night or moving in, children will grow up thinking that type of thing is acceptable. All I'm trying to say is that women should think about how their actions will effect their kids.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 4, 2006 9:07:44 GMT -5
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Post by Blaque on Jun 4, 2006 9:10:58 GMT -5
Exactly. ;D
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 4, 2006 9:13:24 GMT -5
say what cha doing tonight lady
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Post by Blaque on Jun 4, 2006 11:17:21 GMT -5
say what cha doing tonight lady Why, you wanna spend the night?
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 4, 2006 13:00:48 GMT -5
sookie sookie nah
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 4, 2006 16:14:49 GMT -5
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jun 8, 2006 14:53:13 GMT -5
I think that a woman or a man should scrutinize over and over again the person's life. When you consider bringing people around your children you are pretty much exposing them to the outside world, safety must be insured. It should be more than your personal wants and needs your child or children must be on the front line when considering this type of relationship.
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Post by Blaque on Jun 8, 2006 15:34:06 GMT -5
I couldn't agree with you more. I know that we as adults must be able to have social lives, but I feel as though our children should always come first.
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