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Post by binorcalgirl9 on Apr 18, 2007 20:16:01 GMT -5
It's hard to be mixed and live in white america. I was adopted at birth by a white couple. At the time they didn't know i was of color (my pigmentation didnt surface until i was a month old) yet once they did, they could not stop loving me. Unfortunately, when i was 3 we moved out of diverse San Jose, Cali to white Denver, Colo. It's been hard on me. All i ever knew was a white culture. My entire family is white (w/ the exception of my brother, he is biracial too but looks white), the school I go to (Columbine) has all of 22 mixed black kids, and my entire neighborhood is white. Until high school, I thought I was white because I just assumed I was what my friends were. Then I met "the Mirror" and the truth. Now I have to choose. I feel white, I am probably near the whitest black girl there is and a lot of lagit black people call me white-washed, yet everyone sees me as black because of my brown skin. they don't see my blue eyes or my curly (not kinky) hair, or my slim nose... they just see skin deep. So what do I do? I can't seem to fit in anywhere. The white people see me as black and act diff around me and witht the black people i feel like I have to "act black" and not myself. I just don't know where to find common ground in this white, raciest world. can't I just be me and have everyone be okay with that?
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Post by sweetpie on Apr 18, 2007 22:49:24 GMT -5
What is in the mirror that disturbs you?
First of all you must work on and be satisfied with who YOU are. You can't impress anyone trying to morph into them. You are not as different as you feel yourself to be or as they try to make you. I feel different amongst my own at times too but I am who I am. You are not going to impress everyone and you will not be liked by everyone either so why waste the brain power on it? Unfortunately skin color delineates you... me... all of us. Who are legit black people to you? They see you as black because you are. Why do you care whether they see that your eyes are blue? or your hair isn't kinky? or that you have a slim nose? Do these features help you feel special? Special as compared to what? The people you are around now will not always be in your life except family.
You will learn in this life that looks will not hold unless there is a good personality to go with it. Look to what is important in your life. Not those people that label you. Not those that act jealous but only a friend. People only have possibly up to 3 GOOD friends in their lifetime. If you want to be known for something worthwhile, do something to help someone. Do you believe in God? You are who you are for a reason, you are biracial and have been adopted for a reason. There is purpose for your life and listening to naysayers is a waste of energy. Surround yourself with people you can learn from... those are the ones who can be your friends.
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Post by dolphinfan on Apr 19, 2007 21:19:03 GMT -5
Be you. Act Intelligent, love the people around, as they love you. You don't have to ACT black or white. I would say one more thing, learn your history!!!!(black) so when confronted, by anybody about the way you say you act, you can confront them accordingly. Too many times people get caught up, in there diversity, and loose site of who they are as a PERSON!!! . I say enjoy, the experience, learn from it. Your young and life is full of challenges. If you feel you need more black friends in your life, to center **YOU** go to places, that we go to, work at, hobby's we like. I was in Denver (97) I saw a lot of mixed people, but I stayed downtown!!!. Use your computer to talk to others like yourself!!!!!!. In the end, (no matter what other may say) it's all about YOU and your happiness and were you BEST!!!!!!! fit in. Not what others place you. LOOK for you CENTER GROUND and grow from there.
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