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Post by Blaque on May 25, 2006 11:57:25 GMT -5
Confession is good for the soul. I thought this would be an interesting addition to the board. We'll try it and see what happens. Here members as well as guests can come clean about something, get advice, or just share his or her innermost feelings. All postings are anonymous so you won't have to worry about being judged by others. Happy posting!
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Post by lusciouslois on May 25, 2006 14:53:09 GMT -5
are you sure? ;D
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Post by Blaque on May 25, 2006 15:17:34 GMT -5
It could be interesting. Heck, I may log on without signing in and spill my guts. ;D
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Post by blackviking on May 25, 2006 15:35:24 GMT -5
Heck, I may log on without signing in and spill my guts. ;D
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Post by Blaque on May 25, 2006 15:41:56 GMT -5
Stay tuned.
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Post by lusciouslois on May 25, 2006 16:08:13 GMT -5
Heck, I may log on without signing in and spill my guts. ;D You want some more butter with that, BV? ;D
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Post by Blaque on May 25, 2006 16:21:35 GMT -5
We all need to get stuff off their chest from time to time, right? This could really be a helpful forum where people can get feedback for their particular situations. I'm excited about it!
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Post by lusciouslois on May 26, 2006 8:28:00 GMT -5
Yes we do
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Post by allaboutme2 on May 26, 2006 9:12:35 GMT -5
I do have a secret confession. Since I can't bring myself to tell this guy for fear of him making a hundred yard dash in the opposite direction. I guess I can fess up to this wonderful new site I've stumbled upon ;D. Well, I'm in love with this man. So whats the problem you say? The problem is I'm married and want to divorce my husband (for reasons that have nothing to do with this other man). Also this other man has a girlfriend who lives in another state. So they are doing the long distance thing. Now I have been seeing this man for the last couple of months or so and even before we spoke two words to each other when I say I looked into his eyes and knew I would love this man I know what I'm talking about. I was so intrigued by him I could just sit and look into his eyes all day and read his soul like an open book. At times I want to tell him how I feel and I know for a fact he knows I care a lot about him and he tells me likewise but as far as me just putting it all out there and telling him how I truly feel I just can't do it. I have been married for five years but have been with my husband for a total of 16 yrs. Since we have been married I have never cheated on him but when I saw this man I'm seeing I was like DAMN! Something just hit me, came over and struck me like lighting.I had to have this man. I wish I could blame this feeling on just the excitement of something new or a spark in my life as far as getting out of my daily routine but I can't. I know love and this is it! My dilemma is should I tell him how I feel?
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Post by Blaque on May 26, 2006 9:44:45 GMT -5
allaboutme2, Before you tell this man how you feel about him, first ask yourself what are your intentions with your husband. Do you still love him? Do you plan on staying with your husband? If so, no good can come out of you telling this new man, thay you have these feelings. You are married, and he is in a relationship. A lof of people could potentially get hurt if you confess and act upon these feelings.
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Post by Allaboutme2 on May 26, 2006 10:55:44 GMT -5
No, I don't plan on staying with my husband. We have had issues prior to this other man coming into my life. I love my husband but am not IN LOVE with him. I'm probably in love with the history we have and in a sense fell obligated to him because of that "history " and the fact that I have two children with him but I cannot live this lie anymore I am not in love with him. As far as my intentions with the other man, I must admit I do want to be with him and secretly wish he would break up with his girl BUT I would never tell him that because that is just wicked. He never tells me that he wants me to leave my husband or any thing of the sort and I know its bothers him more that I'm married as opposed to just dating someone else. But going into this whole thing from the beginning we agreed "it is what it is" and would just go with the flow BUT somewhere down the line and for me at the very beginning things got emotional. When I'm with him I never want to leave him. When I'm not with him I need to be with him. When we are out at a party or a gathering of any sort he acts like I'm the only one in the room and he does not mind letting every one else around us know how he feels and I know some feelings will get hurt and things will be said but if I don't let him know I'll always have this burden on my heart and and wonder what if.....
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Post by Blaque on May 26, 2006 12:45:59 GMT -5
I think that first and foremost, if you are no longer in love with your husband, you should let him know so that you and he can go your seperate ways. That is the only fair thing to do. Once you are free and clear, then see what happens with this other man. But take it from someone who had to learn this lesson the hard way, just because this other man is giving you attention and making you feel special, does NOT mean that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Don't think that just because you leave your husband he will come running. I think that if the feelings were mutual, he would have told you by now. That may not be such a bad thing. If you really decide to leave your husband, you may need some alone time to try and reflect on things. In the end, everything will work out the way that it is supposed to. Good luck.
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Post by blackviking on May 26, 2006 14:42:18 GMT -5
Does it bother you at all that he's in a relationship, but he's got you on the side?
If you do leave your husband and get together with him, who's he going to have on the side then?
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Post by allaboutme2 on May 26, 2006 16:33:22 GMT -5
First let me say, I am not leaving my husband for another man. Again, prior to this man coming into my life I was already getting a divorce so that is a non-issue. Second, I have already told the other man my decision to divorce has nothing to do with him. All parties are clear on that. I DO NOT expect this other man to come running into my arms when I'm a free woman. I want nothing of the sort. If things work out with him then fine if they don't then that's fine too. I've had my trials in life and know that nothing comes without some type of cost. If I did end up with this man yes, I probally would always wonder if there would be someone on the and that goes for hm as well seeing that he's my side dip now. But in life those are risk we decide to take or not. As far as having time to myself I'm so cool with that as well.
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Post by Blaque on May 26, 2006 19:54:00 GMT -5
At the end of the day, you have to do what's right for you. It sounds like your mind is already made up. Do what you have to do and let the chips fall where they may.
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