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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 16, 2006 18:49:41 GMT -5
I hear women crying all the time , about men not pulling there own weight. But i see us pulling our weight. I also see the MOPHOS, who ain't doing shyt. But women seem to choose thees men. So my question is this; Are women pulling more weight because of bad choices!!!? Or are men, trying to BREAK women, by making them pull more weight for nothing? Men; try not to answer until a few of the women answer, because this question is really about them!! and how they feel about it, but feel free to chime in at anytime. unless your back is hurting.......from pulling all that weight... ;D
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Post by pelicanguy on Aug 16, 2006 21:42:05 GMT -5
You know they won't go off until we comment. ;D
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 17, 2006 7:50:28 GMT -5
I hear women crying all the time , about men not pulling there own weight. But i see us pulling our weight. I also see the MOPHOS, who ain't doing shyt. But women seem to choose thees men. So my question is this; Are women pulling more weight because of bad choices!!!? Or are men, trying to BREAK women, by making them pull more weight for nothing? Men; try not to answer until a few of the women answer, because this question is really about them!! and how they feel about it, but feel free to chime in at anytime. unless your back is hurting.......from pulling all that weight... ;D BrotherB Dolphin, I feel it is some of both of what you said. Bad choices in men from women and men trying to break women. Some men come across in the beginning of a relationship like they have themselves together, financially speaking but they don't. They may have a job at the beginning but unbeknowingest to the woman, it may be the 50th job he has has since he was old enough to work. He may have his monetary priorities mixed up but will have cash to pay for her first or second meal out then, it is "uh, baby, u got this?" Some men have the financial means to do whatever THEY choose but still hold back from the woman. Now if a man loses his job for a good reason, then maybe the woman can help within reason until he gets back on his feet, but he shouldn't expect her to keep doing everything for him. I see too many women "taking care" of a trifling man...he drops her off at work in HER car and he goes everywhere but to look for a job. Some women won't "allow" a man to do anything for them because the woman may feel that if she does, the man will try to "own her." Then we have women who can just sit around and look pretty and even though she herself may have a job, she has men falling all over her giving her money and doing for her.
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Post by Blaque on Aug 17, 2006 11:50:57 GMT -5
Are women pulling more weight because of bad choices!!!? In some cases yes. Women make bad choices and then complain that their man ain't shit. I don't care how long I've been with a man, I am not taking care of him, period, end of the story. When a man starts showing me that he is a loser, it's a rap. A man can't MAKE a woman do anything. If by "break" you mean that a man is trying to test a woman to see how strong she is, that's called playing games. Either two people are going to work hard at a relationship or they are not. There will always be times when one person has to be strong for the other. There will always be times when a woman has to support her man and vice versa because of hard times. However, most women aren't stupid. We know when we are being played. There comes a time when a woman has to stop being a doormat, demand that her man acts like a man or roll out. It's not that difficult.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 17, 2006 12:11:33 GMT -5
Okay, MsB, *since right now you are the only other female to answer up til now* what about if your SO or husband was unable to work due to illness? (I know, that is a whole other story) but I thought I would ask it before one of the males asked. Say your SO didnt live with you...would that change the answer?
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Post by Blaque on Aug 17, 2006 12:22:40 GMT -5
Okay, MsB, *since right now you are the only other female to answer up til now* what about if your SO or husband was unable to work due to illness? (I know, that is a whole other story) but I thought I would ask it before one of the males asked. Say your SO didnt live with you...would that change the answer? If he didn't live with me it would depend on how serious the relationship was. I wasn't specific but I did say that There will always be times when a woman has to support her man. I was in a relationship once where my live in boyfriend hurt his back on the job and was receiving Workman's Comp. I worked two jobs so that everything would be OK. I don't have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with his trifling Negroes trying to get over because other women have lead them to believe that they are God's gift.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 17, 2006 12:29:57 GMT -5
Okay, MsB, *since right now you are the only other female to answer up til now* what about if your SO or husband was unable to work due to illness? (I know, that is a whole other story) but I thought I would ask it before one of the males asked. Say your SO didnt live with you...would that change the answer? If he didn't live with me it would depend on how serious the relationship was. I wasn't specific but I did say that There will always be times when a woman has to support her man. I was in a relationship once where my live in boyfriend hurt his back on the job and was receiving Workman's Comp. I worked two jobs so that everything would be OK. I don't have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with his trifling Negroes trying to get over because other women have lead them to believe that they are God's gift. okay I meant that he is your SO but for whatever reason, y'all dont live with each other...I didnt live with my ex SO. And I saw where u said there are times where we "support" our man. I understand your last line. and I sho as hell aint gonna "support" a man when he has money to "floss" rather than to help me or his own self.
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 17, 2006 18:51:11 GMT -5
You know they won't go off until we comment. ;D
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 17, 2006 19:20:57 GMT -5
I hear women crying all the time , about men not pulling there own weight. But I see us pulling our weight. I also see the MOPHOS, who ain't doing shyt. But women seem to choose thees men. So my question is this; Are women pulling more weight because of bad choices!!!? Or are men, trying to BREAK women, by making them pull more weight for nothing? Men; try not to answer until a few of the women answer, because this question is really about them!! and how they feel about it, but feel free to chime in at anytime. unless your back is hurting.......from pulling all that weight... ;D BrotherB Dolphin, I feel it is some of both of what you said. Bad choices in men from women and men trying to break women. Some men come across in the beginning of a relationship like they have themselves together, financially speaking but they don't. They may have a job at the beginning but unbeknowingest to the woman, it may be the 50th job he has has since he was old enough to work. He may have his monetary priorities mixed up but will have cash to pay for her first or second meal out then, it is "uh, baby, u got this?" Some men have the financial means to do whatever THEY choose but still hold back from the woman. Now if a man loses his job for a good reason, then maybe the woman can help within reason until he gets back on his feet, but he shouldn't expect her to keep doing everything for him. I see too many women "taking care" of a trifling man...he drops her off at work in HER car and he goes everywhere but to look for a job. Some women won't "allow" a man to do anything for them because the woman may feel that if she does, the man will try to "own her." Then we have women who can just sit around and look pretty and even though she herself may have a job, she has men falling all over her giving her money and doing for her. I'm feeling your answer, but it's kinda broad!!!. I see women out her working two and sometimes three jobs, for somebody who don't give a dam, about them, and to me ,it's OBVIOUS. Then when they break up!!,maybe even gotten themselves together, financially. A real man comes along, and BAM, she goes right after the finances, you take her out. YOU GOT TO GET ME THIS, you do something for the kids(if any). They got to have that. Of course theses are some of the after effects, of being dogged!!!. But even well intentioned women seem to be pushing mens limits on the subject, of how much is too much. I had, to learn to live within , my finances, and always ADJUSTED, when it was needed. Plus so far in my life, i have never taken in a women who is needy. What i mean by that, even if they have jobs, they always asking for something, but never can return anything worth a dam, except sex and a smile. I try never to over reach, but women SEEM to have No problem , with going over board, be it for themselves, friends and family. I asked one women, why she gotta, be a bitch, about what her man, has to do for her, instead of just checking him out. Of course she rolled her eyes, but said, I have taken care of so many niggers, it's my turn!!!! all I could say to myself, was; I dam sure ain't gonna mess with this ONE!!! And i bet a lot of real men said the same thing, because, I never see her out with men, that SHOULD be her Caliber!!!. I have sat down with women Crying about, why they can't pay bills, hell I knew one personally that had Twelve, credit CARDS!!! WTF, but always with the NIGGER, never the man, and always crying about her situation, *I don't understand, why i can't get ahead, of my bills* . If the weight of life is sooo tuff, why not CHANGE UP, try a different route? I don't know. I guess thats why so many, well off women, are alone.........
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 17, 2006 19:36:01 GMT -5
Are women pulling more weight because of bad choices!!!? In some cases yes. Women make bad choices and then complain that their man ain't shit. I don't care how long I've been with a man, I am not taking care of him, period, end of the story. When a man starts showing me that he is a loser, it's a rap. A man can't MAKE a woman do anything. If by "break" you mean that a man is trying to test a woman to see how strong she is, that's called playing games. Either two people are going to work hard at a relationship or they are not. There will always be times when one person has to be strong for the other. There will always be times when a woman has to support her man and vice versa because of hard times. However, most women aren't stupid. We know when we are being played. There comes a time when a woman has to stop being a doormat, demand that her man acts like a man or roll out. It's not that difficult. What I mean by BREAK is, when a man, some how makes a women stretch, herself beyond her limits. And yes, only a women can let a man break her!! PERIOD. I agree with the door mat thingy ;D But how come it takes so long? ExAMPLE: Boyfriend has the best DIGGADY, in DA WORLD,PERIOD!!!! and a smile to MATCH. He moves in, but has no Job, and has not been working, or maybe he just got out of jail!!!, whatever, the Diggady is DA BOMB, but now that he's in, you bills are about to blow up!!! HOW LONG IS TOO LONG, before for that Negro, has to go!!!, EXCEPTIONAL DIGGADY AND ALL?
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Post by pelicanguy on Aug 17, 2006 20:41:30 GMT -5
I'm feeling your answer, but it's kinda broad!!!. I see women out her working two and sometimes three jobs, for somebody who don't give a dam, about them, and to me ,it's OBVIOUS. Then when they break up!!,maybe even gotten themselves together, financially. A real man comes along, and BAM, she goes right after the finances, you take her out. YOU GOT TO GET ME THIS, you do something for the kids(if any). They got to have that. Of course theses are some of the after effects, of being dogged!!!. But even well intentioned women seem to be pushing mens limits on the subject, of how much is too much. I had, to learn to live within , my finances, and always ADJUSTED, when it was needed. Plus so far in my life, i have never taken in a women who is needy. What i mean by that, even if they have jobs, they always asking for something, but never can return anything worth a dam, except sex and a smile. I try never to over reach, but women SEEM to have No problem , with going over board, be it for themselves, friends and family. I asked one women, why she gotta, be a bitch, about what her man, has to do for her, instead of just checking him out. Of course she rolled her eyes, but said, I have taken care of so many niggers, it's my turn!!!! all I could say to myself, was; I dam sure ain't gonna mess with this ONE!!! And i bet a lot of real men said the same thing, because, I never see her out with men, that SHOULD be her Caliber!!!. I have sat down with women Crying about, why they can't pay bills, hell I knew one personally that had Twelve, credit CARDS!!! WTF, but always with the NIGGER, never the man, and always crying about her situation, *I don't understand, why i can't get ahead, of my bills* . If the weight of life is sooo tuff, why not CHANGE UP, try a different route? I don't know. I guess thats why so many, well off women, are alone.........
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 17, 2006 20:54:20 GMT -5
I'm feeling your answer, but it's kinda broad!!!. I see women out her working two and sometimes three jobs, for somebody who don't give a dam, about them, and to me ,it's OBVIOUS. Then when they break up!!,maybe even gotten themselves together, financially. A real man comes along, and BAM, she goes right after the finances, you take her out. YOU GOT TO GET ME THIS, you do something for the kids(if any). They got to have that. Of course theses are some of the after effects, of being dogged!!!. But even well intentioned women seem to be pushing mens limits on the subject, of how much is too much. I had, to learn to live within , my finances, and always ADJUSTED, when it was needed. Plus so far in my life, i have never taken in a women who is needy. What i mean by that, even if they have jobs, they always asking for something, but never can return anything worth a dam, except sex and a smile. I try never to over reach, but women SEEM to have No problem , with going over board, be it for themselves, friends and family. I asked one women, why she gotta, be a bitch, about what her man, has to do for her, instead of just checking him out. Of course she rolled her eyes, but said, I have taken care of so many niggers, it's my turn!!!! all I could say to myself, was; I dam sure ain't gonna mess with this ONE!!! And i bet a lot of real men said the same thing, because, I never see her out with men, that SHOULD be her Caliber!!!. I have sat down with women Crying about, why they can't pay bills, hell I knew one personally that had Twelve, credit CARDS!!! WTF, but always with the NIGGER, never the man, and always crying about her situation, *I don't understand, why i can't get ahead, of my bills* . If the weight of life is sooo tuff, why not CHANGE UP, try a different route? I don't know. I guess thats why so many, well off women, are alone.........
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Post by Blaque on Aug 18, 2006 11:21:16 GMT -5
ExAMPLE: Boyfriend has the best DIGGADY, in DA WORLD,PERIOD!!!! and a smile to MATCH. He moves in, but has no Job, and has not been working, or maybe he just got out of jail!!!, whatever, the Diggady is DA BOMB, but now that he's in, you bills are about to blow up!!! HOW LONG IS TOO LONG, before for that Negro, has to go!!!, EXCEPTIONAL DIGGADY AND ALL? A smart woman would never allow a man with no job to move in with her. But, I'm going to keep it real. Good sex will cloud your judgment. I have been there. Un-be-knowns to me, this guys I had just met had just gotten out of jail. He didn't have a job, but he was FINE and we were phucking like crazy. About 2 months afterwords he was leaving his momma moving in with me. We all make mistakes. What's important here is that I got the lesson from that situation. I never let another man live with me rent free. The next time around I was smarter. Women have to learn to stop falling for the okie doke over and over again. All men ain't dogs unless we allow them to be. If all a woman attracts are men who treat her badly, she has to look in the mirror and do a little soul searching.
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 18, 2006 18:15:54 GMT -5
ExAMPLE: Boyfriend has the best DIGGADY, in DA WORLD,PERIOD!!!! and a smile to MATCH. He moves in, but has no Job, and has not been working, or maybe he just got out of jail!!!, whatever, the Diggady is DA BOMB, but now that he's in, you bills are about to blow up!!! HOW LONG IS TOO LONG, before for that Negro, has to go!!!, EXCEPTIONAL DIGGADY AND ALL? A smart woman would never allow a man with no job to move in with her. But, I'm going to keep it real. Good sex will cloud your judgment. I have been there. Un-be-knowns to me, this guys I had just met had just gotten out of jail. He didn't have a job, but he was FINE and we were phucking like crazy. About 2 months afterwords he was leaving his momma moving in with me. We all make mistakes. What's important here is that I got the lesson from that situation. I never let another man live with me rent free. The next time around I was smarter. Women have to learn to stop falling for the okie doke over and over again. All men ain't dogs unless we allow them to be. If all a woman attracts are men who treat her badly, she has to look in the mirror and do a little soul searching. WOW!!!, in your oppinion, how long is too long!!, to be without work, and still be your boyfriend. just a rounded off number. Good diggady and ALL
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Post by Blaque on Aug 19, 2006 8:47:26 GMT -5
2 months. Anyone can find a job within 60 days. It may not be a "dream" job, but an honest living is better than being unemployed.
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