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Post by Blaque on Mar 28, 2007 12:14:02 GMT -5
Are there any telltale signs that someone is cheating?
If you thought your partner was cheating would you ever just let the affair run its course?
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Post by darock on Mar 28, 2007 15:52:39 GMT -5
Hmm...lemme give this a try...
Inconsistencies in stories they tell. Being evasive when asked direct questions about the relationship/avoiding commitment. Excessive secrecy...even when they claim it's "no big deal". Unexplained absences & whereabouts & getting too defensive when asked...if it's no big deal, then why the big deal? Unreturned calls/rushing off the line when someone else calls. Hiding their computer screen from you, or logging off when you get near. Sudden indifference toward you/passive-aggressive. Sudden urge to talk to you about "just being friends." Finding fault with every word you speak, every move you make, every breath you take . Excusing/justifying everything that they do wrong. Being verbally abusive. Running their mouths about it to others when they THINK you don't know. Witholding sex (with YOU.) LYING.
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Post by lusciouslois on Mar 28, 2007 16:05:01 GMT -5
Hmm...lemme give this a try... Inconsistencies in stories they tell. Being evasive when asked direct questions about the relationship/avoiding commitment. Excessive secrecy...even when they claim it's "no big deal". Unexplained absences & whereabouts & getting too defensive when asked...if it's no big deal, then why the big deal? Unreturned calls/rushing off the line when someone else calls. Hiding their computer screen from you, or logging off when you get near. Sudden indifference toward you/passive-aggressive. Sudden urge to talk to you about "just being friends." Finding fault with every word you speak, every move you make, every breath you take . Excusing/justifying everything that they do wrong. Being verbally abusive. Running their mouths about it to others when they THINK you don't know. Witholding sex (with YOU.) LYING.
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Post by thicknbassy on Mar 28, 2007 16:22:23 GMT -5
Reneging on promises.
(This feels like "Family Feud." )
"Survey SESS!" **DING!** ;D
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Post by lusciouslois on Mar 29, 2007 8:21:50 GMT -5
Reneging on promises. (This feels like "Family Feud." ) "Survey SESS!" **DING!** ;D Kudos to you too, T&B! How about this one, fellows? A "sudden" interest in where a certain place is, whether it is a store, restaurant, or even a church, and after all was said and done, they asked about the place because that is where their "new flava," worked, like to shop or worshipped at? Mind you these places are places that they should have already known about, per se but never showed any interest in before
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Post by pelicanguy on Mar 29, 2007 10:31:28 GMT -5
Consistently giving you rainchecks on arranged get-togethers (dates, coming over to your place/his or her place, etc.)
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Post by Blaque on Mar 29, 2007 10:47:34 GMT -5
Sounds like some of y'all have been schooled by the best. Did anyone mention the "my cell phone died and I didn't get your call" routine? I was seeing this guy and I would call him at night and his cell phone would go straight to voice mail. He's always try to tell me that he lost power. If someone will lie to you, they will cheat and I have a very low tolerance for a liar.
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Post by lusciouslois on Mar 29, 2007 11:50:09 GMT -5
Sounds like some of y'all have been schooled by the best. Did anyone mention the "my cell phone died and I didn't get your call" routine? I was seeing this guy and I would call him at night and his cell phone would go straight to voice mail. He's always try to tell me that he lost power. If someone will lie to you, they will cheat and I have a very low tolerance for a liar. Brother B, yup, that also. BLAQUE! GIRLLLLLLLLL! HELL YEAH! have any of you gotten this one-"I left the phone in the car?" That is not one to believed if your SO lives on the phone any other time they are too phucking afraid they would miss a call from anybody...you gonna leave it in the car??? Consistently??? Ohhhh, one MO thing Go to his/her place after not being there for awhile and things loo/feel different-items that you know they wouldnt buy for themselves are there, place is clean when they were formerly a slob, etc....you know something is rotten and it aint the trash.
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Post by Blaque on Mar 29, 2007 12:20:53 GMT -5
"I left my phone in the car" is not to be believed under any circumstance. If a man (or woman) don't answer their cell phone it's for one reason and one reason only, because they don't want to be disturbed.
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Post by sweetpie on Mar 29, 2007 21:00:25 GMT -5
If they ain't answering their phone it's because they turned it off, especially if it is going straight to voicemail.
I do believe one can cheat without getting caught. I also believe that a woman can do it better than a man due to the fact that he cannot hold himself together, he has no finesse about it. Not saying that it is an accomplishment in itself but he just plain cannot do it.
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Post by drok9 on Mar 31, 2007 16:12:41 GMT -5
Oh gosh ... please don't bring back those days! I would never let an affair run its course ... he can best believe I'm going to investigate, confront and walk.
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Post by pelicanguy on Apr 1, 2007 14:38:37 GMT -5
"I left my phone in the car" is not to be believed under any circumstance. If a man (or woman) don't answer their cell phone it's for one reason and one reason only, because they don't want to be disturbed. Exactly, so quit calling 20-11 times like a dummy.
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Post by lusciouslois on Apr 2, 2007 8:53:55 GMT -5
"I left my phone in the car" is not to be believed under any circumstance. If a man (or woman) don't answer their cell phone it's for one reason and one reason only, because they don't want to be disturbed. Exactly, so quit calling 20-11 times like a dummy. and just like the cheater of whatever sex needs to quit calling 30/11 times to see where their SO is, trying to make sure he/she doesnt roll up on him/her ;D
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Post by Blaque on Apr 2, 2007 9:56:00 GMT -5
You gotta admire a pro-active cheater... ;D
But the bottom line here is, if someone is acting shady, he or she is probably doing something they shouldn't be doing. I don't buy into a bunch of convoluted explanations and stories. If someone is acting suspicious, they are probably not doing the right thing.
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Post by darock on Apr 2, 2007 13:43:59 GMT -5
Here's another red flag...when they start making "suggestions" about what YOU need to be doing/not doing with your life.
It's funny when someone does this and then you find out about their deception. You get to thinkin, "you had some phuckin nerve."
Nothin like knowin that it was a two-faced, lyin, cheatin mofo that was tryin to map out YOUR life for you...
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