Now I am not trying to scare you but ... most of the time when someone wants space 3 of you are crowding it...
Now I am sure you can take care of yourself but... (dang that word again) as a woman on a personal tip... I'm thinkin' I got a possible in the wings. I need time to check it out hmmm... stall a bit. Now it might not be all that and I am sure you have already thought about this. Unless she has actually done something you are at a disadvantage cuz ya don't know. How old is she if you don't mind my asking. But in the meantime you need to find out exactly what she means by "s p a c e" pronto. Are you sure that you have no reason not to trust her? Love has a haze that gets the best of us sometimes, and dammit! Pollutes the real vision.
One other thing... something is NOT happening between the two of you which is the reason why she's looking... find out what that is. If she says nothing is wrong you may want to hang back and scope her a bit. I'm just throwin' this out here for you to think about.
She's 27.
I think I know what's going on. I told her about my plans to go back to school and become a teacher....even told her I'd move to where she is and go to school up there (they have a similar alternative program). I wonder if she's willing to put up with me going to school for one-to-two years (that's how long it'll take me to finish the program).
I haven't talked to her since last Friday. When someone wants space, I give it to them. She knows how i feel about her.
I just find it weird that after all that praying she did after we broke up a few years ago hoping we get back together, and Hurricane Katrina giving me a wake-up call...it's just puzzling. I never been in this situation before, which is why I'm kind of freaking out.
BROTHER B!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
may I have a sit down with you?
I will tell you what i have done, over the years for love!!!.
I have traveled half way across the country, I have traveled to TENNESSEE, near the Volunteers( smoky mountain range).
I have waited. I know that, the hurricane has, made you rethink things, and your honesty is commendable. but the reality is this.............
You have to take care of yourself first!!!! then others. The worst thing you can do as a man, is short change yourself. if you feel that, your education, needs to be completed, before your 100%. then do it.
Women go through theses EMOTIONAL changes all the time, and if there is some distance, she may be using you against another..........man, who may already have what you have, but lack being you. Plus with all the changes, she maybe asking, question, she's not ready to answer!!!
I'm not saying don't see it through, I'm saying think it through alot better then you have let us know of.
As a man i can tell you, know matter how cute they are , women come and go!!! and as you age, that will prove itself, and the same can be said of men!!!.
before you make life Altering choices, how about being honest and ask her some honest questions, you will be surprised at the answers, you will get.
Some women love the thought of getting married, and having children and the whole , picket fence scenario.
but the reality is, both sexes only know what they were told, not the reality of the COST, EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, or just the time it takes, to relearn, how to love someone, for who they are, as oppose to who YOU think they are.
If you smell game, it's game, no matter how much you love her.
long distance love affair only work, if Both participates, are getting something out of it.
She may love your honesty, and commitment, to-wards the relationship, but love the thought , of being CHASED more!!!.
Hence her reluctance, to commit to what you want!!.
In other words, she like you, but maybe doesn't love you. She appreciate, how you make her feel, but can't or want, return those same feelings. I just wanted to through a few of those thoughts at you.
maybe they will help you sort through , whatever you maybe going through, because as a man, we have all been there.