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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 11:33:19 GMT -5
God forgive me, but I will not maintain any semblance of a relationship with my son's father. I think the worst thing anyone can be is a bad parent. And a bad parent is all he has ever been. He does not support our son financially and I will NEVER force him if he won't do it on his own. He doesn't visit our son. He would rather I bring our son to him and that's not going to happen. He continues to make excuses as to why he is so fucking worthless. And I can't talk to him for more than 5 minutes without arguing with him. The way I see it, we have nothing to talk about. Talking to him is wasting my time and depleting my energy. I don't want to be his friend so why do I need to talk to him? I've had enough. I won't allow anyone in my life that creates negative energy. So this may be the ugliest thing I've ever done but as of today, I'm done. I'm cutting off all communication. If he doesn't want to be a parent, he'll have to answer for that. But he will not worry the hell out of me every day.
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Post by darock on Jan 8, 2007 11:37:13 GMT -5
Dayum. I'm sorry, bout that, baby, but I know how you feel. Been there, not with LilRock's mama, but with other women in my life.
Fuck 'em.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 17:09:09 GMT -5
That's what I say too.
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jazzlover
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Post by jazzlover on Jan 8, 2007 17:21:50 GMT -5
He is an idiot, I wish I had a son!
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 17:25:55 GMT -5
He IS an idiot. And I just can't allow him to bring down my mood any more. Every time we talk, we get into an argument.
Hell, he's not doing ANYTHING for our son. Haven't done anything for him in 6 years. So the way I see it, there is nothing else we need to talk about.
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jazzlover
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Post by jazzlover on Jan 8, 2007 18:21:07 GMT -5
Well I can't be a father for your son, but I pray for him everyday! God will bless you both, I also pray God covicts his father and he realizes the error of his ways!
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 21:00:14 GMT -5
Thanks Panther. You are so sweet.
But you know, that's life. People sometime let you down. But I put my trust in God because I know He will always be there for my son and I when no one else will.
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Post by pelicanguy on Jan 9, 2007 14:42:07 GMT -5
Yikes, Miss Blaque. I hope yall haven't been arguing in front of your son. That's not a good thing.
Just remember that if - and I do mean if - your son (when he gets older) - wants to see his father, let him.
Here's a hug and I pray you will keep the negativity out of your life.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 9, 2007 14:53:19 GMT -5
Thanks Brother B.
My son's father and I don't argue in front of our son. That would require him to haul his big ass to my home but he refuses to do that.
Unfortunately or fortunately (I don't know which) my son isn't really aware of things because of his Cerebral Palsy. Even if he knew his father he wouldn't be able to communicate that he wanted to see him.
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Post by sweetpie on Jan 9, 2007 19:01:42 GMT -5
You will be better off, some people are like fire and ice and when they come together it's a sizzle! Parents can be the same way. Just move forward as you are, don't accept calls from him, don't even hear his voice. Sometimes people are thown in your way to get you off balance to keep you in hate mode, it keeps you irritated and all of that stress works on you more than you would believe. Now you want to be around to take care of your son don't you? Let that jerk go. There is a reason as to why he is the way he is and no one is paying you to be his psychiatrist.
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Post by ifayomi on Jan 9, 2007 21:46:00 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that this is happening, not the part so much about him not being a father (that is bad as well) but I am sorry that he has been upsettng you Ifayomi
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 10, 2007 9:10:30 GMT -5
B, you did what you thought was right as far as the sperm donor is concerned. Please dont be offended by my next statement but as much as you speak on negative energy/people, I really didnt think you would be able to tolerate him much longer. We (I include myself in 'we') cant make people do or be what we want them to be or what we know they SHOULD be. For those of us who chose to take a "parent" to court, that shouldn't be something they should be made to do seeing as how they made half of the seed we women carried. Some people we just have to pray for and let them go on their way. We also cant guarantee that he will regret being so neglectful...who knows? You have too much support from your board family and biological family and friends to keep "studying" about him.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 10, 2007 9:39:35 GMT -5
Thanks guys. You all are really wonderful. He's history!
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Post by Brother B on Jan 10, 2007 15:57:43 GMT -5
You will be better off, some people are like fire and ice and when they come together it's a sizzle! Parents can be the same way. Just move forward as you are, don't accept calls from him, don't even hear his voice. Sometimes people are thown in your way to get you off balance to keep you in hate mode, it keeps you irritated and all of that stress works on you more than you would believe. Now you want to be around to take care of your son don't you? Let that jerk go. There is a reason as to why he is the way he is and no one is paying you to be his psychiatrist. I like what she said.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 11, 2007 12:22:31 GMT -5
Ok, like you scared the shit out of me. I was like, "No he didn't just up and delete his profile without so much as a goodbye, kiss my ass, or I'll see ya when I see ya."
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