cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jun 11, 2006 0:53:19 GMT -5
Ladies have any of you been the other woman in a relationship?
Honestly, speaking I was involved in one and it just turned out to be one of the worst heartbreaks. Initially, I didn't know about her when I found out I confronted him and got the old line that I am going to leave her, I am not in love with her. Well, it kept on and on until my health got affected and I said enough is enough and left it was the best move I made for myself.
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Post by Blaque on Jun 11, 2006 9:35:21 GMT -5
I went into a relationship knowing that I was the other woman. Even though in his eyes, he never made me feel like I was 2nd, or whatever, it was one of the most confusing and hurtful situations I've ever been in. When we were together he was the most loving and attentive man ever, but when we weren't together I was suspicious and paranoid and always in a bad mood...it just wasn't a good experience. I agree with you cinnaroll, calling it off was the best move I ever made.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jun 11, 2006 11:21:30 GMT -5
I would have to say that I was the "other woman" in just about every relationship I ever had. I didn't know it ... the guy always said I was "crazy" for thinking such a thing but he usually got caught in the end.
Heck, one woman came to my apartment looking for her man! Turned out he had kids (he swore he never had but I kept finding diapers in his car).
One answered his telephone and when I asked her who she was she told me "I'm his girlfriend .. who are you?" ... found out she was a white girl. Ugh!
One called his house all night long until he answered the phone (I wondered why he always wanted me to park my car in his garage!)
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Post by Blaque on Jun 12, 2006 15:38:06 GMT -5
Drok, you found diapers in the car? LOL. ;D I was living with this man who had a child before we met. Well, his "baby momma" was ALWAYS calling our house for no apparent reason. She would call multiple times a day and I knew that they weren't always talking about their son. So, I found out that the she was pregnant. The first thing I asked is if it was his. Of course he said no. Ok, so after the little girl was born, when the woman called the house she would say "This is Michael and Michelle's mother, can I speak to.." Which of course gave me a reason to suspect that both kids were his. But of course, he continued to deny it. Then one day, a letter came to the house from child support enforcement. I opened the letter (ok, I know I was wrong for that) and the woman was seeking child support for the little girl she had while me and the guy were dating. Do you know he STILL denied it, even though the little girl had his last name. Some men will try to take a lie to the grave. How could anyone lie about their own flesh and blood?
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jun 12, 2006 21:12:02 GMT -5
Ugh!! That sounds just like my ex-brother-in-law. He did the same thing to my sister.
Yes, I kept finding baby diapers in his car. I knew she was leaving them their for me to find. Girl, I had to go...
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Post by lusciouslois on Jun 13, 2006 8:31:56 GMT -5
Ugh!! That sounds just like my ex-brother-in-law. He did the same thing to my sister. Yes, I kept finding baby diapers in his car. I knew she was leaving them their for me to find. Girl, I had to go... if it was homeboy's car, that was on him to hide the diapers, but anyway....oh I am not condoning him at all. Some men think they are the shiznit and will or need to lie to keep his stable full of women.
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Post by allaboutme2 on Jun 13, 2006 8:42:30 GMT -5
Yes ladies, I too have been the other woman but I knew it going in so I was prepared for all that came with it..so I thought. The girlfriend lived in another state so while she was away I, in my mind was the "girlfriend" UNTIL it was time for her to visit him and I would be put on the shelf like a toy until he was ready to play with me again. That was the hurting part, taking me around his family and friends, loving me to no end then just putting me to the side....uuggghhh! Not a good feeling! Again, I thought I was prepared but when feelings like that get involved you'll never be prepared for hurt.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jun 13, 2006 9:04:14 GMT -5
Yes ladies, I too have been the other woman but I knew it going in so I was prepared for all that came with it..so I thought. The girlfriend lived in another state so while she was away I, in my mind was the "girlfriend" UNTIL it was time for her to visit him and I would be put on the shelf like a toy until he was ready to play with me again. That was the hurting part, taking me around his family and friends, loving me to no end then just putting me to the side....uuggghhh! Not a good feeling! Again, I thought I was prepared but when feelings like that get involved you'll never be prepared for hurt. girl I got put on a shelf like a toy in a single relationship, so I KNOW that shyt hurts (at least we werent married, I think he may have been cheating)
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Post by Blaque on Jun 13, 2006 9:46:14 GMT -5
Yes ladies, I too have been the other woman but I knew it going in so I was prepared for all that came with it..so I thought. The girlfriend lived in another state so while she was away I, in my mind was the "girlfriend" UNTIL it was time for her to visit him and I would be put on the shelf like a toy until he was ready to play with me again. That was the hurting part, taking me around his family and friends, loving me to no end then just putting me to the side....uuggghhh! Not a good feeling! Again, I thought I was prepared but when feelings like that get involved you'll never be prepared for hurt. That was my experience too. He thought because he treated me well when we were together, it was ok for him to put me on hold whenever he needed to. What also hurt is that she didn't know about me, but he told me all about her. To me, that meant that her feelings were to be protected and my feelings weren't important. I'm glad it's over.
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Sista Chi
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Post by Sista Chi on Jun 18, 2006 14:58:37 GMT -5
No, I haven't. But I can imagine that it is NOT an easy road to travel.
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