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Post by Blaque on Jul 9, 2006 21:36:41 GMT -5
If your man had a page on My Space, Black Planet or the like, would that bother you? You are suppose to trust your mate and cyber space for the most part is for entertainment purposes only. But how would you feel if he were "chatting" with women online?
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 10, 2006 0:57:32 GMT -5
You know Blaque, I learned long time ago a man is gonna do what a man is gonna do so, I would not let it bother me. My husband actually promotes his business on both sites and he chats but it doesn't bother me but it use to until I learned.
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Post by Blaque on Jul 10, 2006 9:15:06 GMT -5
Cinna, I was involved with a man who was hell bent on having umpteen female friends online. He didn't have a business to promote he was just being friends because that's what he did. I wasn't ok with it and honestly, I don't think I ever could be. He told me that the world doesn't revolve around me, and I guess that's one reason why things didn't work out. I was always suspicious and he didn't really give me a reason not to be.
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 10, 2006 10:07:29 GMT -5
I understand and if my hubby gives me a reason to, I probably would be feeling the same way. I do feel it goes on an individual basis because I don't know if I would trust someone else.
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Post by emagynation on Jul 10, 2006 17:26:29 GMT -5
Until he gives me a reason to not trust him, I would. On one hand, cyber space has and always will be a great way to meet people and set-up sexual encounters if one so desires, but we don't work/live in bubbles. I'd be more worried about the women he has physical access to on a daily basis (ie work, social situations, shopping, etc) than one online, if I had to worry. Yes, that woman online can fly, drive or bike it to a mutual location where they can do whatever they want, but one in his physical space on a daily basis is more approachable and therefore somewhat more of a "threat". I think the key is to simply be able to trust your man and he should be willing to respect your wishes if you pose a legitimate concern with his online chat activities.
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Post by drok9 on Jul 10, 2006 21:19:02 GMT -5
My trust would become a little shaky. First and foremost, I would trust him until he gives me reason not to but my main concern and distrust would come from the others online chatting with him. I don't know them hence I do not trust them or there intentions.
I would trust that my husband would not violate our marriage by chatting sexually with another woman.
I guess if he started acting suspicious when I came into the room while he was on the computer I would get worried.
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