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Post by Blaque on Jul 31, 2006 15:19:44 GMT -5
Most of us have probably said these words before..."he needs to be a man" or "he needs to act like a man". As a woman who is handling her business, I have an idea of what makes a man, a man. My question to my sisters is what is your definition of a MAN actually acting like a man? What are some of the things you expect a man to do by "being" a man?
First and foremost, you have to be gainfully employed. If a man is still job hoping in his late 30 - 40's he is NOT being responsible. He is not being a man. Also, if you live with your parents...that a no no. If you can't take care of yourself, you are NOT being a man. And I would be remiss if I didn't include the males who are not taking care of their children. If a man has a child or children and he is not providing financial AND emotional support, he is a big ass child himself.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 31, 2006 15:33:20 GMT -5
*rubbing my hands together in glee* ;D -needs to be gainfully employed...not been on your job just a few years and you are a senior citizen unless you got laid off -needs to be financially responsible. PAY YOUR BILLS instead of trying to "floss." -have your own car and place -take responsiblity for any mistakes you have made in life instead of blaming your problems on "the man," or some women, or anyone else but you -if you have minor children, take care of them and not put the mother(s) down for wanting you to take of them. -be honest in every aspect of your life -let your actions speak for you...words are empty -respect your woman if you have one *keyboard is smoking*
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Post by Blaque on Jul 31, 2006 15:58:05 GMT -5
*rubbing my hands together in glee* ;D That's a big one. I hate it when men try to play the blame game. There was this one guy who was trying to put his ex-wife down for having 3 kids out of wedlock. I asked him "Aren't two of them yours?" He tried to say she should have been responsible for birth control. All I could do was shake my head.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 31, 2006 16:07:26 GMT -5
*rubbing my hands together in glee* ;D That's a big one. I hate it when men try to play the blame game. There was this one guy who was trying to put his ex-wife down for having 3 kids out of wedlock. I asked him "Aren't two of them yours?" He tried to say she should have been responsible for birth control. All I could do was shake my head. ummhmm.....sorta off topic but the ex SO would be watching shows like Maury or any judge show that dealt with questionable paternity and when the DNA results came back negative in the man's favor, the ex would get the biggest kick out of it. like all women who have children are trying to put the screws to any and every man by blaming him for fathering her child(ren) of course I asked him, "so how many women have 'blamed' YOU for their children?"
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Post by Blaque on Jul 31, 2006 16:11:52 GMT -5
As far as I'm concerned if a man sleeps with a woman without having enough sense to protect himself then he is leaving himself open to whatever. I bet a lot of men watch those Maury shows and get a kick out of it when the women are wrong. If if the women are wrong, that doesn't give men a license to go out in the world and sleep with any and every woman. It goes both ways but sometimes men can't see that.
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 31, 2006 23:27:46 GMT -5
As far as I'm concerned if a man sleeps with a woman without having enough sense to protect himself then he is leaving himself open to whatever. I bet a lot of men watch those Maury shows and get a kick out of it when the women are wrong. If if the women are wrong, that doesn't give men a license to go out in the world and sleep with any and every woman. It goes both ways but sometimes men can't see that.
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Sista Chi
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Post by Sista Chi on Aug 1, 2006 0:38:08 GMT -5
-Employed...legally.
-Respects women at all times..even if she is not respecting herself.
-A Gentleman...or have gentleman characteristics.
-Self Sufficient...if you can't take care of anyone else, at least be able to take care of YOURSELF.
-Living with parent(s)? It's alright, if you are SAVING for a nice little foundation to build upon WHILE actually working and/or going school. Should be contributing financially to the household. OR you are the one taking care of the parents for medical reasons.
-Attends to ANY and ALL of his kids, emotional, physical and financial needs, whether he is in the same household or another with other kids or not. I really don't care if he doesn't get along with his Baby's Momma...you keep trying until you die.
-Has goals and puts himself SERIOUSLY on the road towards those goals.
-Virtuous
-Family Oriented
-Hardworker
-Responsible
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