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Post by Blaque on Oct 24, 2006 14:52:26 GMT -5
Ladies, could you respect a man who didn’t have a job?
Say you met someone and he was “in between” jobs, would you date him?
Or say he was a chronic job hopper...forever leaving a job for one reason or another.
What would you do if he asked to borrow money?
The reason I ask the question is because I just got off the phone with a male acquaintance of mine who hasn’t worked in years. He was complaining that he didn't have money to buy headache medicine so I asked him what did he do today to better his situation. It went something like this:
What did you do to better your situation today?
I can't do nothing, I told you I have a migrane.
Well, what did you do yesterday to better your situation?
I had to go to a funeral yesterday.
Ok, what did you Friday?
What are you talking about?
Nevermind.
Then it made me think of hand full of other grown azz men with work/money issues. It is such a huge turn off when a man isn’t self sufficient. I’m a woman. I don’t have a 4 year degree but I have a pretty decent job and I take care of myself and my child. And nothing turns me off more than a trifling man who can’t take care of himself.
I just find it hard to respect a man who can't take care of himself.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Oct 24, 2006 17:43:22 GMT -5
I don't lend guys money .... thats my motto and I stick by it.
One guy called me and told me that he was going to get his butt kicked tonight if he did not give these guy money he owed them ... you know what I told him after he gave me that sorry story .... I said ... "pad up brotha .... put on as many layers as you can and take that whippin and be done with it and if you can't take it ... run like you ain't never ran before in your life." He hung up on me but hey ... I ain't no fool and I sure ain't no bank.
I don't believe in being anyone's crutch ....
If you come to me for help ... sure I will help you but its not the instant gratification they are thinking of. You need money? I can get you the number to the closest bank.
I cannot stand guys who ask women for money!!!! Ugh .. that burns me up!!!! Especially when they ask a single woman with a child.
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Post by lusciouslois on Oct 25, 2006 8:20:32 GMT -5
Lord have mercy, ladies I was JUST talking to this elderly woman the other day about this same subject, as well as other friends too. I too am a single mother but I am still surprised at the number of MEN who can't hold a job, dont want to work AT ALL or have a job and are horrible stewards of their money. Why is it that we WOMEN do what we need to do to get and KEEP a job but men dont care? I told a guy (habitual job hopper) that it must be nice as hell to lay around all day, sleep, eat, watch TV, and wait for someone to hand you something, as opposed to getting up and going to work. MsB...that male you are talking about oh and lets not forget about the job hopper who blames "the man" or any and everything for him quitting yet another job.
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Post by Blaque on Oct 25, 2006 9:52:33 GMT -5
One guy called me and told me that he was going to get his butt kicked tonight if he did not give these guy money he owed them ... you know what I told him after he gave me that sorry story .... I said ... "pad up brotha .... put on as many layers as you can and take that whippin and be done with it and if you can't take it ... run like you ain't never ran before in your life." He hung up on me but hey ... I ain't no fool and I sure ain't no bank. Drok, that story is priceless. I've got to remember that one. LL, the thing that kills me is that men like this STILL want to try and run chit.
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Post by lusciouslois on Oct 25, 2006 13:38:22 GMT -5
One guy called me and told me that he was going to get his butt kicked tonight if he did not give these guy money he owed them ... you know what I told him after he gave me that sorry story .... I said ... "pad up brotha .... put on as many layers as you can and take that whippin and be done with it and if you can't take it ... run like you ain't never ran before in your life." He hung up on me but hey ... I ain't no fool and I sure ain't no bank. Drok, that story is priceless. I've got to remember that one. LL, the thing that kills me is that men like this STILL want to try and run chit. Girl, please..... try to run chit ain't got chit ain't got his name on chit in YOUR crib ain't tryna help you with YOUR chit in YOUR crib soooo....NO PAY, NO SAY! ;D
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Post by Blaque on Oct 25, 2006 14:28:17 GMT -5
But he's a MAN. Having a say so is a God given right.
***please note the sarcasm***
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Post by lusciouslois on Oct 25, 2006 14:42:45 GMT -5
But he's a MAN. Having a say so is a God given right. ***please note the sarcasm*** *looking for that memo* **blowing dust off of it** Thanks, B...I'll hang it up on my office wall
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Post by Blaque on Oct 25, 2006 15:40:05 GMT -5
All right, girl. Please keep that memo handy. You know us po’ little ole wimmen have to stay in our place.
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Post by drok9 on Oct 25, 2006 18:16:40 GMT -5
He is definately a loser and I wouldn't be bothered with his phone calls anymore.
I think some men rely on women to pay their way because they have had relationships in the past with women who have paid their way so they expect it from all women.
What about the ones that get mad cause you don't give them any money.
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Post by Blaque on Oct 30, 2006 10:37:15 GMT -5
Drok, I was with this guy (years ago) who got mad because I wouldn’t give him money for a concert ticket. A concert that he didn’t even ask me to go to might I add. And you are right, if one woman does it a man expects all women to do it.
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Post by msdeserveitall on Nov 13, 2006 23:39:36 GMT -5
I agree with you, I CANNOT respect a man that has no funds coming his way. Its even worst when he dosen't even have any interest in bettering his situation. I met a guy one day that was so broke that he couldnt even afford his own cab fare. I refuse to lend or give a man any money whatso ever. Unless we are in a relationship and we holding each other down and even then, My man now has TOO much pride to the point that he dosen't even what me to know when he has a problem financially. I have to pick and pry to find out whats going on, cause he feels less of a man, when he have to ask me for money help. But I cant see myself dishing out money on a man who can't hold himself down.
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