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Post by Blaque on Dec 1, 2006 14:03:24 GMT -5
These days, women are about as likely to bring home the bacon as their male counterparts. But has this affected what kind of guy women want to date—is the size of a man’s salary still a critical element?
I say yes and I say it with no shame. If a man my age is barely getting by, I wouldn't want to date him. I have enough people to take care of.
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sweetpie
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Post by sweetpie on Dec 1, 2006 14:26:34 GMT -5
What irritates me is when he is NOT bringing in anything. Because our stations in life can change at any given moment and depending upon the type of man he is also depends upon whether I can deal.
What I won't I won't deal with is a man that cannot keep a job more than a month or three. Or always looking a hand out from me and is just playing the role as if he puts in more than he does.
If he loses his job thru no fault of his own and can hopefully collect unemployment I won't even gripe about that. But when dat money runs out!? Get on the pavement buddy!
But whether I make more than he does like I said before depends on his character and how he treats me and if he is in it to win it then we can do it together.
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Post by Blaque on Dec 2, 2006 10:30:40 GMT -5
I've run across a few men who lost or quit a job and then sat around waiting for another job to come to them.
I got fired once, and I left the house EVERY morning filling out applications and going on interviews. I had a job within 2 weeks. I just don' t have any repect for a man who can't keep a job and because he can't, he has to keep starting at the bottom of the pay scale.
I want stability in a relationship. I don't mind holding it down during hard times, but if a man can't commit to a job for whatever reason, he can't look for me to bail him out. I've got a family to take care of.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Dec 2, 2006 11:34:19 GMT -5
Out of all the guys I dated, I never once asked or knew how much their salary was. It was not my business. I have never asked my husband how much he makes ... I've been married for 7 years now and I could not tell you what he makes.
As long as I'm not carrying the household expenses, my son's needs, my needs and his needs than I don't care. I expect him to carry his load and as long as he does that .... what he makes doesn't matter to me.
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Post by Blaque on Dec 3, 2006 19:01:21 GMT -5
I've never asked a man how much he made either. Some men volunteer the information, I guess in an effort to impress. But if a man has to ask me to borrow gas money, I assume he makes less than I do...or just can't manage his finances.
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Sista Chi
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Post by Sista Chi on Dec 3, 2006 22:05:06 GMT -5
Yes it matters..if he doesn't make a DECENT kind of salary, he can't do anything for me, take me out, buy groceries for two for a home cooked, etc. He's barely taking care of himself.
Salary does matter. You can't be in a relationship on air. Then again, maybe you can if you are both homeless and/or don't care about these kinds of things.
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Post by lusciouslois on Dec 4, 2006 9:11:59 GMT -5
# I've never asked a man who much he made either. Some men volunteer the information, I guess in an effort to impress. But if a man has to ask me to borrow gas money, I assume he makes less than I do...or just can't manage his finances. say that, MsB! funny how men can find money to buy cigarettes or alcohol, lottery tickets, etc but cant find money for gas
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Post by Blaque on Dec 4, 2006 9:48:59 GMT -5
Some men WILL find money for what they really want. And then the things that's not as important OR the things they feel they can get others to help them with, they will simply hold out their hands and say "Gimme"
It's such a turn off.
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jazzlover
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Post by jazzlover on Dec 4, 2006 12:15:32 GMT -5
What kind of men have you guys been with??? I will fix my wifes car and take the bus when mine is broke, I pay bills and buy her stuff and I WEAR second hand clothes! Dang I am a dummy!
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Post by Blaque on Dec 4, 2006 12:20:34 GMT -5
What kind of men have you guys been with??? I will fix my wifes car and take the bus when mine is broke, I pay bills and buy her stuff and I WEAR second hand clothes! Dang I am a dummy! Global Mod, have you lost your mind? GET OUT!!!
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Post by lusciouslois on Dec 4, 2006 12:45:05 GMT -5
What kind of men have you guys been with??? I will fix my wifes car and take the bus when mine is broke, I pay bills and buy her stuff and I WEAR second hand clothes! Dang I am a dummy! Global Mod, have you lost your mind? GET OUT!!! lollol Panther, there are some things that a man SHOULD do for his wife or SO but when it gets to the point to where SHE doesnt appreciate it/them, wellllllll there are some instances where SOME men do do too much for an ungrateful woman *probably shouldn't have answered him since he was all in the wrong forum* ;D
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jazzlover
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Post by jazzlover on Dec 4, 2006 13:25:20 GMT -5
slidding out! sorry (head in shame!)
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Post by lusciouslois on Dec 4, 2006 13:28:56 GMT -5
slidding out! sorry (head in shame!) *snickering some more* ;D Here are some dark glasses, Panther
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sweetpie
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Post by sweetpie on Dec 6, 2006 21:26:35 GMT -5
Here lemme have a whack at him! ;D
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Post by Blaque on Dec 7, 2006 14:27:27 GMT -5
I just love that new smiley.
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