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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 11:23:53 GMT -5
Have you ever dated one?
I think it's great when a man has a good relationship with his mother, but sometimes it can go too far.
I met this man recently and we were talking about the State of Virginia. He made a comment about not liking the area and I asked him about relocating.
He said that he didn't want to leave his mother.
I asked him if his mother had medical problems and he was like "No, I just ain't leaving my mama".
I thought that was odd. He doesn't live with her, he just doesn't want to leave her.
And then every other conversation he talks about his mother.
I mean, that's sweet and all, but come on. A grown ass man?
Ladies, what do you think about this. What are you experiences with "mama's boys"?
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 8, 2007 13:52:24 GMT -5
If he approaches you again or if it is another Mama's boy, DO NOT date him! If you do, dont expect a lot of time for you. More than likely he will "have" to call her to "check in." If he lives with her, just be his friend.
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Sista Chi
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Post by Sista Chi on Jan 8, 2007 15:47:13 GMT -5
Run!
There is loving your mother and there's treating her like a wife.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 15:50:17 GMT -5
Just for the record, this is just a casual friend, not someone I'm interested in. And maybe if he wasn't so attached to his mommy he wouldn't still be single.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 8, 2007 15:53:16 GMT -5
Run! There is loving your mother and there's treating her like a wife. yup, and then someone will have to hear him compare her cooking to Mama's. Blaque that is a strong possibility about that single part. As far as casual friend, keep it casual!
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 15:57:57 GMT -5
No doubt. I have enough problems. That's one I don't need.
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Post by sunflower on Jan 8, 2007 17:20:11 GMT -5
I agree with Sista Chi.......................run. My husband is that way with his mother but his thing comes by way of paying bills, giving money and jumping threw practically any hoop she puts down. Yes, she takes presidence over me & his kids. Again.........run.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 17:23:41 GMT -5
I agree with Sista Chi.......................run. My husband is that way with his mother but his thing comes by way of paying bills, giving money and jumping threw practically any hoop she puts down. Yes, she takes presidence over me & his kids. Again.........run. You are a GOOD woman to allow him to put his mother above you and the children.
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jan 8, 2007 17:56:23 GMT -5
I dealt with this when I got pregnant with my first child and that is why I am her mother and her father till this date. His mother said she wasn't his and he didn't even step in. Guess what she looks just like her Daddy. It is best to run like sunflower said.
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Post by sunflower on Jan 8, 2007 19:32:27 GMT -5
I agree with Sista Chi.......................run. My husband is that way with his mother but his thing comes by way of paying bills, giving money and jumping threw practically any hoop she puts down. Yes, she takes presidence over me & his kids. Again.........run. You are a GOOD woman to allow him to put his mother above you and the children. Nope. I'v e been naive. Tried giving him space and not make him choose between me & his family. But maybe I should have made him choose. Failed to demand what I should have and that was respect as his wife. And in not speaking up, he got the impression that it was ok and started acting like Gene Autry with a rope. I am going to leave it at that. Nothing good about that.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 8, 2007 20:48:26 GMT -5
I'm so sorry sunflower.
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Post by sweetpie on Jan 8, 2007 21:51:23 GMT -5
I haven't personally had that situation but you will lose. That's for sure.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 9, 2007 9:16:06 GMT -5
You are a GOOD woman to allow him to put his mother above you and the children. Nope. I'v e been naive. Tried giving him space and not make him choose between me & his family. But maybe I should have made him choose. Failed to demand what I should have and that was respect as his wife. And in not speaking up, he got the impression that it was ok and started acting like Gene Autry with a rope. I am going to leave it at that. Nothing good about that. Dang, Sunflower ((((HUGS))))
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Post by sunflower on Jan 9, 2007 18:56:52 GMT -5
I'm so sorry sunflower. Thank you but it will be ok cause girlie gonna work it out in just a few ticks............ ;D
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