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Post by Blaque on Jan 19, 2007 11:57:43 GMT -5
What do you think about that statement?
Ladies, let's say you meet a man who told you over and over again about how he couldn't find a woman.
Wouldn't that be a red flag?
Seriously, if a man can't find a woman, maybe there's a reason why he's single.
Maybe it's just me, but I want my man to be desirable to other women.
I was in the mall with this man and other women were checking him out. (His body is a CRAZY.) He asked me if I was the jealous type and I said no. I didn't mind women looking because he was going home with ME, not them. Anyone else feel that way?
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Sista Chi
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Post by Sista Chi on Jan 19, 2007 13:01:21 GMT -5
No, I feel the exact opposite.
Unless he has a stank attitude, stubborn and not willing to be open-minded or just plain ignant, I want him.
Humbleness or a subtle spririt in a man is very attractive to me, and ironically the ones that are looked over the most. I should know, because it is who I am.
Also, less worry about this kind of man getting big headed and vain, and he appreciates ME more because he will take spirit and personality and communication a lot more seriously, than the physical, whether it's for himself or me.
Also, concerning wanting other women to stare him down? I can't do it. I like less drama dealing with catty women always trying to throw themselves all over him, tempting and trying to scheme to get him and ignoring me, because I will get tell them off. And I don't like being put in that position on a constant basis.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 19, 2007 13:26:46 GMT -5
No, I feel the exact opposite. Unless he has a stank attitude, stubborn and not willing to be open-minded or just plain ignant, I want him. Humbleness or a subtle spririt in a man is very attractive to me, and ironically the ones that are looked over the most. I should know, because it is who I am. Also, less worry about this kind of man getting big headed and vain, and he appreciates ME more because he will take spirit and personality and communication a lot more seriously, than the physical, whether it's for himself or me. Also, concerning wanting other women to stare him down? I can't do it. I like less drama dealing with catty women always trying to throw themselves all over him, tempting and trying to scheme to get him and ignoring me, because I will get tell them off. And I don't like being put in that position on a constant basis. I'm with SisChi on this one....(do you know my ex SO?) getting attention from a lot of women is what he thrived on and partly helped destroy our relationship, not to mention HIS vanity and selfishness. If I ever said anything to HIM, I was the one who was wrong and "wore my heart on my sleeve." Also, some men can't KEEP a woman for various reasons. They may find one but can't keep one.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 19, 2007 13:38:11 GMT -5
No, I feel the exact opposite. Unless he has a stank attitude, stubborn and not willing to be open-minded or just plain ignant, I want him. Humbleness or a subtle spririt in a man is very attractive to me, and ironically the ones that are looked over the most. I should know, because it is who I am. Also, less worry about this kind of man getting big headed and vain, and he appreciates ME more because he will take spirit and personality and communication a lot more seriously, than the physical, whether it's for himself or me. Also, concerning wanting other women to stare him down? I can't do it. I like less drama dealing with catty women always trying to throw themselves all over him, tempting and trying to scheme to get him and ignoring me, because I will get tell them off. And I don't like being put in that position on a constant basis. I understand Chi. And I don’t want to have to fight or compete for a man’s attention. And actually, I’m not only talking about just looks. If a man tells me that he can’t find a woman or can’t keep a woman, there may be an underlying problem there.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 19, 2007 13:39:08 GMT -5
Lois, getting attention from other women wasn't the problem. The problem is how your ex handled it.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 19, 2007 13:46:40 GMT -5
Lois, getting attention from other women wasn't the problem. The problem is how your ex handled it. yeah, that is what I meant by him thriving on it/acting like he was God's gift.
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Post by Blaque on Jan 19, 2007 13:52:05 GMT -5
Call me crazy, but there is nothing more flattering than a fine ass brother who could be surrounded by women but instead of buying into all that, he makes you the center of his attention.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jan 19, 2007 14:24:38 GMT -5
SAY THAT SHAT! Aint nothing crazy about that statement to me that would be a sign of maturity...appreciate the admiration BUT handle it respectfully.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jan 19, 2007 18:33:12 GMT -5
Call me crazy, but there is nothing more flattering than a fine ass brother who could be surrounded by women but instead of buying into all that, he makes you the center of his attention. I agree .. its all in how you handle it. I know other women check out my husband and I'm thrilled that he goes home with me everynight. I'm sure my husband would probably say the same thing about me, guys check me out and I'm sure he is thrilled that I go home with him everynight. Now, if you have an immature man than this is deadly to a relationship.
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