Post by cinnaroll32 on Jun 25, 2006 18:08:44 GMT -5
When there is a divorce or just seperation of a relationship who gets hurt the most?
If there are children involved I believe the children gets hurt the most especially if they really love both parents. It is like they have to chose between the two and decide who do I really want to live with and unfortunately sometimes they do get involved in the tug-of-war especially if it is a terrible break up.
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Myth:Divorce does not harm children, and in most cases it leads to greater happiness for children because of decreased tension in the home, new experiences, and greater opportunities for independence and growth.
Reality: Although adults may enjoy a sense of freedom in the pursuit of a new and satisfying intimate life, divorce results in children's lives becoming increasingly subject to rearrangement, instability and emotional upheaval. The devastation children feel on the heels of their parents' divorce is similar to the way they feel when a parent suddenly dies, for both experiences disrupt close family relationships.
Divorce changes the very nature of childhood. Divorce can sever the crucial bond between a child and one or both of his or her parents. And tragically, divorce has brought about a mass exodus of fathers away from close association with their children. After divorce, parental time and money invested in their children is greatly diminished. Children receive less time and attention from parents because it is now being directed towards establishing new patterns of living which may include a new spouse and/or step-family. Spending time between multiple, unstable households, children are forced to deal with a new set of problems.
Divorce disrupts a child's relationship with a parent and often creates unresolved feelings of loss and grief that are not shared by the other parent. Divorce is a different experience for children and adults because the children lose something that is fundamental to their development — the family structure. The family comprises the scaffolding upon which children mount successive developmental stages, from infancy to adolescence. It supports their psychological, physical, and emotional ascent into maturity. When that structure collapses, the child is left impoverished, both economically and emotionally.
www.unitedfamilies.org/divorce.asp
If there are children involved I believe the children gets hurt the most especially if they really love both parents. It is like they have to chose between the two and decide who do I really want to live with and unfortunately sometimes they do get involved in the tug-of-war especially if it is a terrible break up.
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Myth:Divorce does not harm children, and in most cases it leads to greater happiness for children because of decreased tension in the home, new experiences, and greater opportunities for independence and growth.
Reality: Although adults may enjoy a sense of freedom in the pursuit of a new and satisfying intimate life, divorce results in children's lives becoming increasingly subject to rearrangement, instability and emotional upheaval. The devastation children feel on the heels of their parents' divorce is similar to the way they feel when a parent suddenly dies, for both experiences disrupt close family relationships.
Divorce changes the very nature of childhood. Divorce can sever the crucial bond between a child and one or both of his or her parents. And tragically, divorce has brought about a mass exodus of fathers away from close association with their children. After divorce, parental time and money invested in their children is greatly diminished. Children receive less time and attention from parents because it is now being directed towards establishing new patterns of living which may include a new spouse and/or step-family. Spending time between multiple, unstable households, children are forced to deal with a new set of problems.
Divorce disrupts a child's relationship with a parent and often creates unresolved feelings of loss and grief that are not shared by the other parent. Divorce is a different experience for children and adults because the children lose something that is fundamental to their development — the family structure. The family comprises the scaffolding upon which children mount successive developmental stages, from infancy to adolescence. It supports their psychological, physical, and emotional ascent into maturity. When that structure collapses, the child is left impoverished, both economically and emotionally.
www.unitedfamilies.org/divorce.asp