Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 8, 2006 4:48:53 GMT -5
I know they really make it seem like it is easy to do step-parenting but it isn't. I cope with it on a day to day basis and have developed an understanding with my hubby and the children about discipline and respect. I try my best not to choose sides unless it is unfair but when you are caught in the middle it can really be emotionally stressful.
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Ten Steps Toward Successful Stepparenting
-Provide neutral territory. If your budget allows, consider moving into a new home.
-Don't try to fit a preconceived role. Be yourself.
-Set limits and enforce them. The parent and stepparent need to work out disciplinary actions in advance, then support each other when the rules are being enforced.
-Allow an outlet for children's feelings about the natural parent. The children will maintain affection for their natural parent. Do not take this personally.
-Expect ambivalence. Feelings of love and hate by the stepchild may change every few hours, or few days.
-Avoid mealtime misery. Mealtime can be laden with emotions of "how it used to be." Try to make this time as peaceful as possible.
-Don't expect instant love.
-Don't take all the responsibility. The children have some, too.
-There are two people involved in any relationship. Therefore, if things are less than perfect, don't take all the guilt.
-Be patient. The first few months, or years, may have difficult periods.
-Maintain the privacy of the marital relationship. A solid stepfamily relationship is based on a strong marital relationship. Blending a family takes time and patience. Like any other family unit, however, it too can be healthy and strong.
ohioline.osu.edu/hyg-fact/5000/5231.html
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I can relate to this so much , it really does take patience and understanding.
____________________________________________________
Ten Steps Toward Successful Stepparenting
-Provide neutral territory. If your budget allows, consider moving into a new home.
-Don't try to fit a preconceived role. Be yourself.
-Set limits and enforce them. The parent and stepparent need to work out disciplinary actions in advance, then support each other when the rules are being enforced.
-Allow an outlet for children's feelings about the natural parent. The children will maintain affection for their natural parent. Do not take this personally.
-Expect ambivalence. Feelings of love and hate by the stepchild may change every few hours, or few days.
-Avoid mealtime misery. Mealtime can be laden with emotions of "how it used to be." Try to make this time as peaceful as possible.
-Don't expect instant love.
-Don't take all the responsibility. The children have some, too.
-There are two people involved in any relationship. Therefore, if things are less than perfect, don't take all the guilt.
-Be patient. The first few months, or years, may have difficult periods.
-Maintain the privacy of the marital relationship. A solid stepfamily relationship is based on a strong marital relationship. Blending a family takes time and patience. Like any other family unit, however, it too can be healthy and strong.
ohioline.osu.edu/hyg-fact/5000/5231.html
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I can relate to this so much , it really does take patience and understanding.