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Post by Blaque on Jul 10, 2006 14:04:37 GMT -5
How do you discipline or punish your kids when they mess up?
I would never spank any child so I like to hear other alternatives parents use.
Do time outs work? Do you take away privileges like phone, computer time, etc?
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cinnaroll32
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 10, 2006 14:54:46 GMT -5
Well, spanking is no longer an alternative in my home although sometimes my hand can be swift if I am upset. I do take away priviledges until what I want is accomplished and they understand what I am trying to get across. I do use time out for my 2 yr old and for my 15 yr old for anger controll.
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Post by Blaque on Jul 10, 2006 15:05:24 GMT -5
Before my sister and my niece moved to Florida, my niece spent a lot of time with me. Whenever she would yell or throw a fit I simply ignored her. Whenever she whined I told her that when she figured out how to ask for something I would answer her. It was HARD...my little angle face of niece could work a nerve. But it is entirely possible to reason with a child rather than react physically.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 10, 2006 18:08:44 GMT -5
Does a foot in the butt, still work!!!!!!?
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Post by Blaque on Jul 10, 2006 20:54:44 GMT -5
Does a foot in the butt, still work!!!!!!? It works at instilling fear. Would you want your child to fear you or respect you?
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 16, 2006 11:07:12 GMT -5
Does a foot in the butt, still work!!!!!!? It works at instilling fear. Would you want your child to fear you or respect you? Both and on DIFFERENT OCCASIONS!!!! ( I made a distinction.) As a man, I need to have both. I near him to FEAR the CONSEQUENCES of his ACTIONS!!!. And respect me, for the man I am and the rules I set forth!!!. I believe that you can have both. And that each child you have, should be treated as differently as there personality's, allows. Now make sure you know this, I'm not a tyrant, or unquestionable. But I Do believe, in boundaries, that should never be crossed, by children. Both parent should be working together, to make sure each other style of parenting doesn't go to FAR!! because both sides could go to far, with there own styles or belief systems
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Post by Blaque on Jul 17, 2006 20:50:44 GMT -5
I agree that two people should discuss parenting before they get married. Personally, I believe if you TALK to children and encourage them to do the right thing from a very early age, you won't have to resort to spanking. You may have to repeat yourself a few hundred times but in my opinion, that's always better than being physical. I'm not saying that I am absolutely right about this, but no child in my care would ever be hit by me. I think when you have a child with severe limitations like I do, you look at things much differently. However I recognize what works for me may not be the right thing for other households.
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Post by blackviking on Jul 28, 2006 6:27:29 GMT -5
I don't see the point in physical discipline. Children are relatively easy to control. Although I wouldn't resort to trying to reason with a child, reason isn't really necessary. It doesn't take a genius to figure out a child's currency. When they misbehave, you take something that they value. When they are behaving again, you give it back.
Neither myself nor my sister were raised with corporal punishment, and we both tuned out to be well disciplined adults. The old saying of "spare the rod, spoil the child" is an analogy. The "rod of discipline" doesn't necessarily have to be an actual rod. The most important aspect of discipline is that it be consistent. A child must know their boundaries. How those boundaries are maintained however, can be very subjective.
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