cinnaroll32
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Jul 23, 2006 16:46:55 GMT -5
Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 23, 2006 16:46:55 GMT -5
If your child/children asked you why did you leave mom/dad when is the appropriate time to tell them ?
Well, for me my 15 y/o daughter resented me for years for leaving her dad, it was an abusive relationship and I had given it my all. Now, she has spent the Summer with him and called me a few weeks ago and told me on the phone how abusive his present relationship is, I am not happy that she went through that but for about 2 years I have tried to explain to her why and now she understands.
When is the right time, if there is ever one?
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Jul 23, 2006 21:17:37 GMT -5
Post by dolphinfan on Jul 23, 2006 21:17:37 GMT -5
Not being a parent myself. I'm no expert, but, I have , dated women ,who were in abusive relationships. I think the only thing I can say that makes sense, is that you left, before you got hurt, even more then you did. Time is the the only healing factor, and she got a chance to see, what you were feeling and living and to me thats the most IMPORTANT thing!!!. She now knows her father is not the man, he claims to be, and that her MOTHER is not a LIAR, and someone, to be ADMIRED. For standing by her own convictions, and leaving and taking the kids, so that they would not see that as normal (The violet relationship). I hope that you are in a safer place, MIND BODY AND SOUL. PEACE!!!!!
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cinnaroll32
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Jul 24, 2006 9:04:08 GMT -5
Post by cinnaroll32 on Jul 24, 2006 9:04:08 GMT -5
Not being a parent myself. I'm no expert, but, I have , dated women ,who were in abusive relationships. I think the only thing I can say that makes sense, is that you left, before you got hurt, even more then you did. Time is the the only healing factor, and she got a chance to see, what you were feeling and living and to me thats the most IMPORTANT thing!!!. She now knows her father is not the man, he claims to be, and that her MOTHER is not a LIAR, and someone, to be ADMIRED. For standing by her own convictions, and leaving and taking the kids, so that they would not see that as normal (The violet relationship). I hope that you are in a safer place, MIND BODY AND SOUL. PEACE!!!!! Yes, I am thank you for your concern.
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Jul 24, 2006 9:21:54 GMT -5
Post by lusciouslois on Jul 24, 2006 9:21:54 GMT -5
I would say it would depend on the age of the child when you are asked. If they are small, say around 5 or 6, I would just say we couldn't get along or live together anymore. If they are older, I might give them more details but that depends on how much you want them to know. Some children will keep an idealized opinion of the absent parent, regardless of how much or how little you tell them.
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