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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 9:20:58 GMT -5
I see it so much in real life and on this board. example....men can come in and complain about how they have been treated in the past and the rest of the men come in and rall around him...."oh, dawg, that is too bad. We know how women can be. It's okay, more fish in the sea," etc, and even if he is STILL hung up on a woman, the men are sympathetic. NOW, let the same situation happen but it is with a woman and the men are quick to run in and say, "you should have known how he was before you got with him/married him,"..."you should have this and that and the other." "you are stupid for staying," blase, blase. I also wonder why some women get so much praise, all things being supposedly equal, and another woman who does the same thing gets nothing but silence and ignored. I guess some feeling are more involved than what the parties want to admit.
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 12:43:12 GMT -5
Well, since you brought it up ;D...What I've noticed is that some of the men get a little snippy and emotional whenever you try to engage them in a dialogue about their past experiences with women We get accused of holding on to the past and being bitter, but I have detected a lot of bitterness and unresolved issues from the men on this board too.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 13:20:56 GMT -5
Well, since you brought it up ;D...What I've noticed is that some of the men get a little snippy and emotional whenever you try to engage them in a dialogue about their past experiences with women We get accused of holding on to the past and being bitter, but I have detected a lot of bitterness and unresolved issues from the men on this board too. I have noticed it more than once and from more than one man myself. But in the mens' cases, it isnt bitterness or unresolved issues. When I find the word for it, I'll be back ;D
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 13:52:34 GMT -5
Yes, please let me know. I've come to the conclusion that most of the time, people don't want to hear a different point of view, they just want someone to co-sign or sympathize. Oh well...
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 15:27:06 GMT -5
okay, I got it...the word I want to use is "venting. "
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 15:29:43 GMT -5
let me see what else I can add to this topic oh yeah.. the woman who stood by you during your bad and or tough times...you cast to the side when things get better for you. You know, the woman or womanfriend who practically held your hand, told you she was in your corner, who's shoulder you cried upon; she is now a forgotten memory.
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 15:41:07 GMT -5
okay, I got it...the word I want to use is "venting. " Venting is fine but what people don't realize is that even though they may be just venting, if they choose to vent on a message board, sometimes people will have a different perspective. If they don't want a different perspective they should learn to keep stuff to themselves.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 15:59:13 GMT -5
okay, I got it...the word I want to use is "venting. " Venting is fine but what people don't realize is that even though they may be just venting, if they choose to vent on a message board, sometimes people will have a different perspective. If they don't want a different perspective they should learn to keep stuff to themselves. So true, so true but different perspectives are sometimes treated like the plague.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:00:57 GMT -5
I see it so much in real life and on this board. example....men can come in and complain about how they have been treated in the past and the rest of the men come in and rall around him...."oh, dawg, that is too bad. We know how women can be. It's okay, more fish in the sea," etc, and even if he is STILL hung up on a woman, the men are sympathetic. NOW, let the same situation happen but it is with a woman and the men are quick to run in and say, "you should have known how he was before you got with him/married him,"..."you should have this and that and the other." "you are stupid for staying," blase, blase. I also wonder why some women get so much praise, all things being supposedly equal, and another woman who does the same thing gets nothing but silence and ignored. I guess some feeling are more involved than what the parties want to admit. mmmmmmmmmmm
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:01:22 GMT -5
Well, since you brought it up ;D...What I've noticed is that some of the men get a little snippy and emotional whenever you try to engage them in a dialogue about their past experiences with women We get accused of holding on to the past and being bitter, but I have detected a lot of bitterness and unresolved issues from the men on this board too. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:01:39 GMT -5
Well, since you brought it up ;D...What I've noticed is that some of the men get a little snippy and emotional whenever you try to engage them in a dialogue about their past experiences with women We get accused of holding on to the past and being bitter, but I have detected a lot of bitterness and unresolved issues from the men on this board too. I have noticed it more than once and from more than one man myself. But in the mens' cases, it isnt bitterness or unresolved issues. When I find the word for it, I'll be back ;D mmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:02:11 GMT -5
Well, since you brought it up ;D...What I've noticed is that some of the men get a little snippy and emotional whenever you try to engage them in a dialogue about their past experiences with women We get accused of holding on to the past and being bitter, but I have detected a lot of bitterness and unresolved issues from the men on this board too. I have noticed it more than once and from more than one man myself. But in the mens' cases, it isnt bitterness or unresolved issues. When I find the word for it, I'll be back ;D
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:02:47 GMT -5
okay, I got it...the word I want to use is "venting. " uuuuuuuuummmmmm
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 18:12:55 GMT -5
You ok Dolphinfan?
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:16:15 GMT -5
I have notice that some Lady's on this board, can bring *IT*, when called for and not be OFFENDED, if somebody doesn't agree with them. While others are looking for a SYMPATHETIC EAR. To agree with what they have said. I have a WORD for it. ; INVIDIOUS, LOOK IT UP!!!!
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