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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 16:04:34 GMT -5
What are some things that the opposite sex do that destroy relationships?
It's been MY experience that men don't always want to put their women FIRST. And God forbid we should call them on it, we are accused of being needy or self-centered. If I don't feel like a priority, it's not going to work. I don't need to see or talk a man all day every day, but make me feel special. Is that asking too much?
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 5, 2006 16:13:13 GMT -5
It IS asking too much...you also get called spoiled or get accused of crowding the man. that is a relationship killer another one is lack of communication..we dont have to talk non-stop to each other but could you truly listen to what I have to say, as opposed to me only listening to you, men? lying and evasiveness....need I say more?
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:27:27 GMT -5
What are some things that the opposite sex do that destroy relationships? It's been MY experience that men don't always want to put their women FIRST. And God forbid we should call them on it, we are accused of being needy or self-centered. If I don't feel like a priority, it's not going to work. I don't need to see or talk a man all day every day, but make me feel special. Is that asking too much? I put my lady first. I just get tired of being compared, to other men , when I do!!!
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:28:53 GMT -5
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 18:34:14 GMT -5
What are some things that the opposite sex do that destroy relationships? It's been MY experience that men don't always want to put their women FIRST. And God forbid we should call them on it, we are accused of being needy or self-centered. If I don't feel like a priority, it's not going to work. I don't need to see or talk a man all day every day, but make me feel special. Is that asking too much? I put my lady first. I just get tired of being compared, to other men , when I do!!! You will get compared to other men whether you're doing right or doing wrong.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 18:56:47 GMT -5
I put my lady first. I just get tired of being compared, to other men , when I do!!! You will get compared to other men whether you're doing right or doing wrong. Yes, but isn't the Idea, to get the thing right. Not play the blame game (you men this,you men that!!). if i ever tried that with a women, she would say JIGGER PLEEZE, ROLL her NECK and keep on walking!!!. I'm not saying, you can't go back mentally, to compare, how you are being treated, to see some type of positive progression in the relationship, but when you VERBALLY, and constantly talk about the other person, I don't care what sex you are, it gets on your nerves!.
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Post by Blaque on Jul 5, 2006 19:03:10 GMT -5
Darling, we are in agreement (I know, I can't believe it either ). But I don't want to be compared to other women and I TRY VERY HARD not to tell a man that he is "just like" an ex. I was talking to this man last year and he kept telling me that me and his ex-wife was just a like. The first few times I ignored it, but then I finally asked him "You do realize that me and your ex-wife are two different people, don't you"...he never compared us again. ;D
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 5, 2006 20:25:11 GMT -5
Darling, we are in agreement (I know, I can't believe it either ). But I don't want to be compared to other women and I TRY VERY HARD not to tell a man that he is "just like" an ex. I was talking to this man last year and he kept telling me that me and his ex-wife was just a like. The first few times I ignored it, but then I finally asked him "You do realize that me and your ex-wife are two different people, don't you"...he never compared us again. ;D That right, get the weak azz mothers out the way
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Post by lusciouslois on Jul 6, 2006 8:48:30 GMT -5
Darling, we are in agreement (I know, I can't believe it either ). But I don't want to be compared to other women and I TRY VERY HARD not to tell a man that he is "just like" an ex. I was talking to this man last year and he kept telling me that me and his ex-wife was just a like. The first few times I ignored it, but then I finally asked him "You do realize that me and your ex-wife are two different people, don't you"...he never compared us again. ;D and what woman wants to keep hearing about an ex anyway, good or bad?
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Post by pelicanguy on Jul 8, 2006 14:15:39 GMT -5
I put my lady first. I just get tired of being compared, to other men , when I do!!! You will get compared to other men whether you're doing right or doing wrong. As far as I'm concerned, I don't wanna even hear another Negro's name and my name in the same sentence in that manner. I don't do it to her, I shouldn't expect it from her.
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Post by pelicanguy on Jul 8, 2006 14:18:10 GMT -5
It IS asking too much...you also get called spoiled or get accused of crowding the man. that is a relationship killer another one is lack of communication..we dont have to talk non-stop to each other but could you truly listen to what I have to say, as opposed to me only listening to you, men? lying and evasiveness....need I say more? Nothing wrong with talking....sometimes you have NOTHING to talk about. And please, get to the damn point!
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Post by pelicanguy on Jul 8, 2006 14:20:00 GMT -5
And yes, men and women can crowd their mates. No need to be around each other ALL the time.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jul 8, 2006 16:00:43 GMT -5
And yes, men and women can crowd their mates. No need to be around each other ALL the time. well said, well said.
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Post by jazzlover on Jul 8, 2006 20:11:54 GMT -5
Men DO need space at times, it doesn't mean he doesn't LOVE YOU! Men are 'wired" differently than women, we internalize things and need QIET sometimes to deal with our issues, whereas WOMEN NEED TO TALK...and talk...and talk.....and talk some more!
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