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Post by pelicanguy on Aug 16, 2006 22:00:43 GMT -5
Ah, quit ya whining Blaque and Lois.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 17, 2006 7:54:20 GMT -5
I love Dolphin but he a lil "special." DAYUM RIGHT, and i just got my special BLUE TAG FOR THE CAR!!!! BrotherB
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 17, 2006 19:40:59 GMT -5
DAYUM RIGHT, and i just got my special BLUE TAG FOR THE CAR!!!! BrotherB
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sweetpie
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Post by sweetpie on Aug 19, 2006 9:04:26 GMT -5
Hmmm Crickets...
I find it emotionally dissatisfying when I need to deal with anger emotions... with a man. He doesn't get it. Yacking about it is my way of processing and trying to purge it. Doesn't make me inferior it just has to be processed and kicked to the curb. It takes longer to get rid of it when you don't have someone to bounce it off of. Just listen you don't have to respond. It is a need to know that someone has heard you. That's it.
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Post by dolphinfan on Aug 19, 2006 10:14:51 GMT -5
Hmmm Crickets... I find it emotionally dissatisfying when I need to deal with anger emotions... with a man. He doesn't get it. Yacking about it is my way of processing and trying to purge it. Doesn't make me inferior it just has to be processed and kicked to the curb. It takes longer to get rid of it when you don't have someone to bounce it off of. Just listen you don't have to respond. It is a need to know that someone has heard you. That's it. Thats deep, painful to know, but deep.
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Post by sweetpie on Aug 20, 2006 7:41:39 GMT -5
I find if you show just a smidge of interest in her feelings about what is happening and make a conscious effort and help with whatever the problem is the quicker it can be resolved. Believe it or not some men DO have the ability to calm and make resolutions. In fact, I feel they can be better at it if they applied themselves to it more. Instead of the ole . Now between me and hubby it irks me when I cannot express something to him that I think he may have handled better, but he won't admit to being wrong about it. We end up leaving it hanging and then the importance becomes less apparent and it falls off. This is basically how we handle a lot of our conflicts. The problem starts to decrease in importance and becomes small. With doing it this way it causes for less arguments etc. One drawback it may arise again and the emotions arise again sadness, anger, tears whatever. If it is something that is throwing a serious wrench in the running of the machine its got to be handled.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 21, 2006 8:09:38 GMT -5
I find if you show just a smidge of interest in her feelings about what is happening and make a conscious effort and help with whatever the problem is the quicker it can be resolved. Believe it or not some men DO have the ability to calm and make resolutions. In fact, I feel they can be better at it if they applied themselves to it more. Instead of the ole . Now between me and hubby it irks me when I cannot express something to him that I think he may have handled better, but he won't admit to being wrong about it. We end up leaving it hanging and then the importance becomes less apparent and it falls off. This is basically how we handle a lot of our conflicts. The problem starts to decrease in importance and becomes small. With doing it this way it causes for less arguments etc. One drawback it may arise again and the emotions arise again sadness, anger, tears whatever. If it is something that is throwing a serious wrench in the running of the machine its got to be handled. I truly hate to have some kind of matter hanging between me and my mate. If it "drops off," to me, that shows me that neither me nor my opinions are important. That is enough to throw a wrench into the machine
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Post by sweetpie on Aug 21, 2006 11:34:52 GMT -5
Yes and this scenario plays over and over and over and yes it does bother me.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 21, 2006 11:44:34 GMT -5
Yes and this scenario plays over and over and over and yes it does bother me.
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Post by sweetpie on Aug 21, 2006 16:44:57 GMT -5
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Post by pelicanguy on Aug 21, 2006 19:55:31 GMT -5
I wonder if women can ever get over some things emotionally.
By that, I'm saying that us guys will confront something and be done with it. Women on the other hand tend to hold on to it.
Help me out, please.
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Post by sweetpie on Aug 21, 2006 20:37:03 GMT -5
Of course it depends upon what it is and how important it is to you which will determine how fast you can shake it off. Everyone has something that will knock 'em down at some point or another. You just may not have come to it yet. With women most things that have to do with the relationship can be an effect on her if it is perceived negative.
It could just about come from anywhere from anyone even her kids. The feeling of not being respected and not heard or even being sensitive to criticisims can bring one down. But as we gain experiences callouses build up on certain things.
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 22, 2006 8:28:34 GMT -5
Of course it depends upon what it is and how important it is to you which will determine how fast you can shake it off. Everyone has something that will knock 'em down at some point or another. You just may not have come to it yet. With women most things that have to do with the relationship can be an effect on her if it is perceived negative. It could just about come from anywhere from anyone even her kids. The feeling of not being respected and not heard or even being sensitive to criticisims can bring one down. But as we gain experiences callouses build up on certain things. whoop, there it is
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Post by jazzlover on Aug 22, 2006 10:40:09 GMT -5
Men and women are different, that is the bottom line~
Women can handle some things that a man can't and vice-versa, when I was in the military and a Correction Officer I encountered things that many women couldn't handle, like seeing a guys brains blown out, or being held hostage by Somolians for over an hour...but women can handle everyday challenges that men avoid too often...like raising a child! When we STOP fighting each other and acknowlegde each others strengths and weaknesses THEN we can advance...and Lois today is the first time I looked at this post for your info (smile)
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Post by lusciouslois on Aug 22, 2006 11:54:34 GMT -5
Men and women are different, that is the bottom line~ Women can handle some things that a man can't and vice-versa, when I was in the military and a Correction Officer I encountered things that many women couldn't handle, like seeing a guys brains blown out, or being held hostage by Somolians for over an hour...but women can handle everyday challenges that men avoid too often...like raising a child! When we STOP fighting each other and acknowlegde each others strengths and weaknesses THEN we can advance...and Lois today is the first time I looked at this post for your info (smile) whatever, Panther I'm sure that some women could handle seeing the violence you described..if they are in the service they may encounter it and like some men may not be able to handle it, some women might be able to.
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