Post by dolphinfan on Nov 3, 2006 6:25:48 GMT -5
pelicanguy said:
admin said:
I try to make a concerted effort to make THIS board different. Although the positive posts about our Black men don't get as many responses as the negatives ones, I do try to celebrate the Brothas. All I can say is that people talk about what they know. If people have been hurt a lot, that's what they are going to talk about. If someone is in a good relationship, that is what they are going to talk about.
I will say this though, at least I have made an attempt to post about the good qualities in Black men. I have NEVER read anywhere on this board where you or any other Black man created a post to celebrate or upligft a sister. So it goes both ways.
And I applaud you for doing your part to uplift the brothers. You certainly are among a minority of women.
I cannot agree more that the positive threads here and on other boards are too-often ignored in favor of the negatives. What totally frustrates me is that when some brothers do try and say something positive about black women, they are often shot down by some of the very same women he's wants to show praise to, accused of frontin'. If it's like that, why should some brothers bother trying in the first place? As if you can't try for nothing.
Frustrating me even more is the attitude of some black women and to a lesser extent, black men, that we should automatically give praise to the black woman, but those folks won't show the same courtesy to the brothers. What buttholes.
I don't know who coined the phrase "I can do bad by myself," but when that phrase became popular in the black community - especially by black women, all hell started to really break loose in the black community and got us to where we are right now. This certainly didn't happen overnight.
I don't have all the answers to solving this gigantic rift between us, but I feel part of the solution involves getting rid of some of the negative folks that we interact with. Those folks poison many of us, leaving us feeling the way many of us do toward each other.
I'll have more later....if it's warranted.
VERY WELL SAID!!!
(now I'm off to work!)