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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 20, 2006 9:20:17 GMT -5
*ladies chime in when you feel like it* GUYS! How come SOME SOME SOME of you or your brethren dont want a woman until someone else does? My coworker (again) was interested in one guy and told him as much. He pretty much didnt return her feelings but they remain friends. He was trying to act "brand new" towards her JUST last weekend when she tried to hug him goodbye. Just a couple of days later, she decides to go for the guy who truly is interested in her. Now that she has done that, guy #1 has done a complete aboutface and now he has made plans for them to go to the beach for New Years. Guy #2 WAS excited thinking him and her had a chance and had a huge weekend planned for them UNTIL she told him about guy#1. He bowed out gracefully. Mind you, they all are in the same circle of friends To me it is like a child who doesnt want to play with a toy until he/she sees someone else playing with it, then all of a sudden it holds a new interest.
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Post by pelicanguy on Nov 20, 2006 11:46:36 GMT -5
This is something that isn't limited to men only, so my answer will be formed to suit to both sexes. I also see more to this dilemma.
Some people feel that they are the shyt and can snag a woman/man anytime they want to.
Some people know that someone really likes them and that woman/man that likes him/her is a really good person, but casually brushes em off, thinking she/he will be available down the road. It goes on for quite a while until that person that likes him/her gets tired of it and goes after someone else. Then the one who brushed her/him off realizes that they don't have such power to keep people coming after them and straightens up and tries to make something happen. Most of the time, that person doesn't luck out. But somehow Dude #1 has.
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I did say that I felt there was more to this story:
I also feel the woman was wrong for pushing Dude #2 aside and agreeing to go out with Dude #1, despite her agreeing to go out with Dude #2. I applaud Dude #2 for taking the high road; I know he felt like he was stabbed big time. What if Dude #1 turns out to be a total jerk in the long run? Does she think Dude #2 would be there waiting for her?
If I were Dude #2, I'd forget about her and make those plans with someone else.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 20, 2006 12:09:58 GMT -5
just relating the story as it pertains to the coworker..I know both sexes can be guilty of this behavior. WELL BB...right after I asked this question, come to find out that she spent time with BOTH guys this weekend. AANNNDDDDD. guy # 2 JUST sent her a dozen red roses and she is floating around here talking about how sweet he is
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Post by pelicanguy on Nov 20, 2006 12:32:12 GMT -5
Oh hell naw! She playing both of em.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 20, 2006 12:53:09 GMT -5
Oh hell naw! She playing both of em. to the max
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Post by Sista Chi on Nov 21, 2006 16:51:31 GMT -5
This is something that isn't limited to men only, so my answer will be formed to suit to both sexes. I also see more to this dilemma. Some people feel that they are the shyt and can snag a woman/man anytime they want to. Some people know that someone really likes them and that woman/man that likes him/her is a really good person, but casually brushes em off, thinking she/he will be available down the road. It goes on for quite a while until that person that likes him/her gets tired of it and goes after someone else. Then the one who brushed her/him off realizes that they don't have such power to keep people coming after them and straightens up and tries to make something happen. Most of the time, that person doesn't luck out. But somehow Dude #1 has. I am in 100% agreement...I think I'm going through that n ow.
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Post by Blaque on Nov 21, 2006 17:12:50 GMT -5
Sounds like a some childish mess to me. All 3 deserve what they get if you ask me.
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Post by sweetpie on Nov 21, 2006 22:34:12 GMT -5
Look like dude #2 is getting caught up. I hope she doesn't break his heart which it looks like it will be anyway.
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Post by pelicanguy on Nov 22, 2006 1:13:34 GMT -5
That's exactly what I'm afraid of, sweetiepie: him getting hurt.
I know what it's like to be in his shoes. It ain't pretty.
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 22, 2006 8:56:50 GMT -5
childish mess is right she said she was out with guy #1 last night...we'll see how the weekend goes
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Post by lusciouslois on Nov 22, 2006 8:57:34 GMT -5
This is something that isn't limited to men only, so my answer will be formed to suit to both sexes. I also see more to this dilemma. Some people feel that they are the shyt and can snag a woman/man anytime they want to. Some people know that someone really likes them and that woman/man that likes him/her is a really good person, but casually brushes em off, thinking she/he will be available down the road. It goes on for quite a while until that person that likes him/her gets tired of it and goes after someone else. Then the one who brushed her/him off realizes that they don't have such power to keep people coming after them and straightens up and tries to make something happen. Most of the time, that person doesn't luck out. But somehow Dude #1 has. I am in 100% agreement...I think I'm going through that n ow. SisterChi, are you the igger or the iggee? If you care not to answer, that is understandable.
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Post by sweetpie on Nov 23, 2006 13:37:32 GMT -5
Chi is right #1 is getting the benefit... and he wasn't interested in the first place and she ain't right. She is using #2 to get #1. If she expects that relationship is gonna last she is sorely mistaken.
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Post by Sista Chi on Nov 23, 2006 20:40:34 GMT -5
I am in 100% agreement...I think I'm going through that n ow. SisterChi, are you the igger or the iggee? If you care not to answer, that is understandable. Sorry, L.L., but I don't understand the igga or iggee? But if you are asking me, if I am the person that's sweating a man because he is now seeing someone else and the whole time he was single I didn't want him....No way. I have an ex-factor that I have been cool with for a long time and I think he's trippin' now that I am seeing someone.
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Post by Sista Chi on Nov 23, 2006 20:42:34 GMT -5
Chi is right #1 is getting the benefit... and he wasn't interested in the first place and she ain't right. She is using #2 to get #1. If she expects that relationship is gonna last she is sorely mistaken. Oh, that wasn't me that said that, SweetPie.
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Post by Blaque on Nov 24, 2006 13:05:39 GMT -5
This is something that isn't limited to men only, so my answer will be formed to suit to both sexes. I also see more to this dilemma. Some people feel that they are the shyt and can snag a woman/man anytime they want to. Some people know that someone really likes them and that woman/man that likes him/her is a really good person, but casually brushes em off, thinking she/he will be available down the road. It goes on for quite a while until that person that likes him/her gets tired of it and goes after someone else. Then the one who brushed her/him off realizes that they don't have such power to keep people coming after them and straightens up and tries to make something happen. Most of the time, that person doesn't luck out. But somehow Dude #1 has. I am in 100% agreement...I think I'm going through that n ow. Care to elaborate, Chi? We're here to support you. ;D
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