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Post by pelicanguy on Feb 20, 2007 21:50:33 GMT -5
Now here's a topic that is talked about, but it isn't out in the open like I personally think it should be.
Single/Divorced/Widowed folks WITHOUT non-adult kids: * How do you feel about dating people with non-adult children? * Would you or would you not be down with it? * How would you react if you're dating someone and that person pushes his/her kids on you very quickly?
Single/Divorced/Widowed folks WITH non-adult kids: * When do you feel it is appropriate to introduce your kids to the person you're dating? * How do you feel when you hear those that don't have kids- not necessarily the person you've just met and is having a conversation with - say "I would never date a man/woman with kids."? * Do you listen to what your children have to say if they have something to say about the person you're dating?
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Post by Blaque on Feb 20, 2007 22:18:00 GMT -5
As you guys know, I have a young son. When I date, I do not bring my son into the equation and I am very hesitant to meet my date's children. In fact, I normally decline if someone brings up interacting with each other's kids.
I think single parents should keep their children out of their social life whenever possible.
People who don't want to date women (or men for that matter) with childre have an absolute right to feel that way. We all have our "deal breakers" so to speak. If a man decides not to date me after finding out I have a son, I would wish him well and keep it moving. I wouldn't waste one minute trying to convince him otherwise.
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Post by toy on Feb 21, 2007 12:12:15 GMT -5
Now here's a topic that is talked about, but it isn't out in the open like I personally think it should be. Single/Divorced/Widowed folks WITHOUT non-adult kids: * How do you feel about dating people with non-adult children? * Would you or would you not be down with it? * How would you react if you're dating someone and that person pushes his/her kids on you very quickly? Single/Divorced/Widowed folks WITH non-adult kids: * When do you feel it is appropriate to introduce your kids to the person you're dating? * How do you feel when you hear those that don't have kids- not necessarily the person you've just met and is having a conversation with - say "I would never date a man/woman with kids."? * Do you listen to what your children have to say if they have something to say about the person you're dating? WHOA WHOA..HOLD UP 1. The first thang I ask is if he has a child 2. If the answer is "yes" ...IM OUT! I look at it like this : I rather not be with a man with a child cause it will only cause more problems with all the baby mama drama....and who wants to be aprt of that mess....He may be cute and all, but no...Sorry you have a child...AND I DONT
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Post by pelicanguy on Feb 21, 2007 17:06:59 GMT -5
I truly feel you, toy. If she can't keep her baby daddy in check, I can't continue to see her.
I had a very bitter pill to swallow ending a two year-plus relationship with a woman in college. I have told myself I would never ever date a woman with kids again because I didn't want her to push her child up on me and feel pressured to rush into a relationship.
I now realize that all single/divorced/widowed mothers aren't like that, so I have opened myself somewhat to dating such women again. However, I am very afraid that if I was to date that woman, things go very well and we end up getting married, she may not want to have anymore children, despite assuring me that she wanted to have another child WITH me.
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Post by Blaque on Feb 22, 2007 9:07:01 GMT -5
People have a right to date who they want and NOT date who they want. I don’t think having children is the problem. It’s how the parent handles it. A drama queen or drama king will surround themselves in drama whether they have children or not. It’s about finding the right person, not the right person who doesn’t have children.
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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 22, 2007 9:18:40 GMT -5
People have a right to date who they want and NOT date who they want. I don’t think having children is the problem. It’s how the parent handles it. A drama queen or drama king will surround themselves in drama whether they have children or not. It’s about finding the right person, not the right person who doesn’t have children.
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Post by Blaque on Feb 22, 2007 10:25:48 GMT -5
Thank ya very much. ;D
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Post by jazzlover on Feb 22, 2007 16:30:06 GMT -5
I like kids so it wouldn't be an issue for me.
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Post by dolphinfan on Feb 22, 2007 22:30:41 GMT -5
Kids are not a very important issue for me. the most important issue, is do they respect, there mom and others around them. Now my personal limit, is three or less!!. I can deal with kids, because my dad was a step dad. A Great dad. But my mom, brought a lot to the table!!!!.,which a lot of single women can't say today and a great job, does not make you a great PARTNER!!!!!. She did not need him!!!. Both understood there roles, in the relationship!!!!!. Both worked, understood the value of money. So when it was time to share, there were no issues. Now they had there ups and downs as a couple. but for the most part, the relationship. Was real, and based on the needs and the ability of both of them!!!!!!!!!!! to address them. Now i date, and it's day um near impossible to date a black women, with out kids (my age). So i don't even bother!!, i just assume , they are there. My biggest problem with women, with kids, is, as soon as they find out, i have a good job!!. I'm expected to do more then there fathers, even before , I even know, if, I WANT TO TAKE CARE OF THEM .
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