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Post by Blaque on Jun 12, 2006 19:11:01 GMT -5
Are prenuptial agreements a good idea? Would you sign one? What would you do if your prospective spouse asked you to sign one?
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jazzlover
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Post by jazzlover on Jun 12, 2006 19:13:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't have one or sign one, If I can't trust you I can't marry you!
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jun 12, 2006 19:23:52 GMT -5
I would definately not sign one .. it says to me that you don't trust me and if you can't trust me to do right by you than I don't want to marry you. Thats just my feeling...
I was asked about signing one and I refused ....
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 12, 2006 19:26:09 GMT -5
If I was rich!!, yes. but other then that no!!!
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Post by Blaque on Jun 12, 2006 19:27:39 GMT -5
I wouldn't sign one either. It's almost as if you are going into a marriage thinking that it is going to end.
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 12, 2006 20:47:11 GMT -5
If I had plenty of assets, I would definitely do so to protect myself.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jun 12, 2006 21:16:17 GMT -5
I think if you feel that she would rip you off if the relationship ended, why get married to someone like that?
Personally, I don't have a problem leaving with just the clothes I came into the relationship with. I was a full-time hard working strong black woman when he met me and I'll be that when he leaves and I find no greater joy than knowing that I did it without his money. If we had children, I would only ask that he take care of his child's responsibilities.
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 12, 2006 21:18:20 GMT -5
Some people hide their motives very well, especially when it comes to matters of money and power. One may marry and never know their mate's ulterior motives until it is too late.
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Post by blackviking on Jun 12, 2006 22:43:30 GMT -5
As a divorcee myself, I can assure you that I will have a pre-nup the next time I marry.
People make strange choices in their lives, and many of them can't be explained. Two people may have all the best intentions in the world, but that doesn't mean it will work out the way they intended. When I get married again, I can't say what choices she may make five years down the road. She may choose to leave me, and that would be her choice.
But, I'll be damned if she's taking half my company with her!
For those of you who wouldn't sign one... what kind of message do you think that sends to you're prospective mate? In my view, it cuts both ways. You may be offended that they presented you with a pre-nup, but doesn't refusing to sign it tacitly imply that you intend to take half of what they own if you leave them?
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Post by lusciouslois on Jun 13, 2006 8:45:52 GMT -5
If I had plenty of assets, I would definitely do so to protect myself. yup...and it is not always a matter of being rich
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 13, 2006 8:48:08 GMT -5
I agree that a couple should split what they get together, but neither deserves half of what one acquired before they were married. That's
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Post by Blaque on Jun 13, 2006 9:05:43 GMT -5
I agree that a couple should split what they get together, but neither deserves half of what one acquired before they were married. That's I agree with that. Some people are greedy I guess. I am the kind of woman who is not impressed by material things. As I've said many times before, marriage is not in my future. But let's pretend for a minute that it was...I would be so offended it a man that I was in love with shoved a pre-nup in my face because if he loved me enough to want to marry me he should know that I would never want anything that didn't belong to me. But people are different, circumstances are different. People should do what is best for them.
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Post by cinnaroll32 on Jun 13, 2006 9:16:38 GMT -5
I don't believe in Prenuptials unless a lot was brought into the relationship.
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drok9
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Post by drok9 on Jun 13, 2006 17:55:37 GMT -5
Again, I believe it has to do with what type of person you marry. I did not sign one, it was asked of me and I refused. My husband respected my decision and he knows me well enough to know that I don't want his money. Simple as that .. he has nothing to worry about.
Had he pressed the issue, we would not be married today.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 13, 2006 18:24:00 GMT -5
I agree that a couple should split what they get together, but neither deserves half of what one acquired before they were married. That's I agree with that. Some people are greedy I guess. I am the kind of woman who is not impressed by material things. As I've said many times before, marriage is not in my future. But let's pretend for a minute that it was...I would be so offended it a man that I was in love with shoved a pre-nup in my face because if he loved me enough to want to marry me he should know that I would never want anything that didn't belong to me. But people are different, circumstances are different. People should do what is best for them. If i was a BLAQUE BILL GATES, and promise you say....10M,if we lasted for five years or more!!! and if we made it passed say, 15years, you can go for halve, my assets, that I made, since we been married. what would you do then, and please explain why!! the numbers i mention are just numbers, they could have been more or less!!!
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