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Post by Blaque on Jun 13, 2006 19:11:48 GMT -5
Dolphinfan - I would never sign it. I think the reason I am not married is because I actually believe that marriages should be forever. I couldn't enter into a marriage thinking about what would happen if we were to divorce. Besides, like I said earlier, I don't care about money. It's just not how I operate.
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Post by dolphinfan on Jun 13, 2006 20:46:29 GMT -5
Dolphinfan - I would never sign it. I think the reason I am not married is because I actually believe that marriages should be forever. I couldn't enter into a marriage thinking about what would happen if we were to divorce. Besides, like I said earlier, I don't care about money. It's just not how I operate. Thats cool, at least your honest about it.
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Post by Blaque on Jun 13, 2006 21:11:28 GMT -5
I try to be.
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Post by blackviking on Jun 13, 2006 21:45:33 GMT -5
Dolphinfan - I would never sign it. I think the reason I am not married is because I actually believe that marriages should be forever. I agree. I think they should last forever too. But, sometimes they don't. Maybe that's why so many people make poor choices with regards to their marriage. They're not thinking about the consequences. They start out assuming that that person is never going to leave them no matter what. So, that gives them a license to act a damn fool. Right back at you... if you don't care about money, then why not sign it?
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Post by Blaque on Jun 14, 2006 6:52:16 GMT -5
Because I would be offended and immensely disappointed that the man I was planning to marry thought of me as a crook. If my word is not enough when I say "I don't want your money" then he would be marrying the wrong woman. Look, I don't even make my son's father pay child support. There is no court order and there will never be one. I am independent to a fault. If I were to marry and God forbid get a divorce, I would severe ALL ties and go on living the lifestyle I had prior to the marriage.
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Post by pelicanguy on Jun 14, 2006 8:25:54 GMT -5
Because I would be offended and immensely disappointed that the man I was planning to marry thought of me as a crook. If my word is not enough when I say "I don't want your money" then he would be marrying the wrong woman. Look, I don't even make my son's father pay child support. There is no court order and there will never be one. I am independent to a fault. If I were to marry and God forbid get a divorce, I would severe ALL ties and go on living the lifestyle I had prior to the marriage. I heard THAT.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jun 14, 2006 8:36:47 GMT -5
Okay...upon talking to one of my friend's mother last night, she informed me that one of HER friends, a 50 something year old woman, had inherited some money awhile ago as well as worked. She is now on disability but her trifling husband isn't working, even though he is able, and told her she needs to get a job. In the not so distant past, he was able to help her go through the money she inherited. In this case, MAYBE a pre-nup would have helped, because NONE of us know how that mate will turn out in the future.
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Post by Blaque on Jun 14, 2006 8:56:43 GMT -5
I refuse to believe that people all of a sudden turn trifling. What I do believe as that we ignore the signs, we settle, and we stay with people who we know are not genuine. In the example that you gave LL, do you know if this husband had been a GOOD husband for years and then over night decided to stop working and mooch off his wife? I can't help but think that this woman had to know that her husband was no good for a very long time. If she allowed his bad behavior, she can't complain now that he is taking it to another level. It always progresses.
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Post by lusciouslois on Jun 14, 2006 9:30:08 GMT -5
I refuse to believe that people all of a sudden turn trifling. What I do believe as that we ignore the signs, we settle, and we stay with people who we know are not genuine. In the example that you gave LL, do you know if this husband had been a GOOD husband for years and then over night decided to stop working and mooch off his wife? I can't help but think that this woman had to know that her husband was no good for a very long time. If she allowed his bad behavior, she can't complain now that he is taking it to another level. It always progresses. Gurl, funny you should ask that......he was a husband, good or not, to SOMEONE ELSE He started sneaking around with the now 2nd wife and they have been married for only three years. I dont know if he was a moocher to the 1st wife, but 2nd wife got more than she bargained for, thinking he wouldnt treat her wrong *shaking my head*
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Post by Blaque on Jun 14, 2006 10:06:42 GMT -5
Exactly my point. People don't use the common sense that God gave them when it comes to choosing a mate. You have to be honest with yourself and really examine the character of the person you are involved with.
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Post by drok9 on Jun 14, 2006 19:14:42 GMT -5
Amen to that!!!!
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