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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 19, 2007 12:20:55 GMT -5
Article in our local paper on V-day and some of the weddings that were held at the city clerk's office. This one couple interviewed-while they were filling out their papers, she noticed that the groom-to-be put his age down as 53. She thought he was only 48. He said SHE ASSUMED he was 48. She passed it off as "would you think I would love you any less if I knew you were 53?" Now, they did say that they started dating in April so I guess it was April 2006, so I dont know if he had a birthday or not since they met and got engaged. is this a red flag because she "assumed" his age, or it is his fault for not correcting the assumption or what?
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Post by dolphinfan on Feb 19, 2007 12:28:42 GMT -5
I think you are looking into it, to much. I'm pretty sure, you told somebody something and it came out the wrong way, or maybe you were just nervous. Now if he said he was 33 and it turned out, he was 53, then you would have a case.
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Post by sweetpie on Feb 19, 2007 12:59:26 GMT -5
I think it is just one of those things, I mean you learn things about your partner everyday. That bit of info for them just seemed to be one of them. What difference does it make now? He's the same guy she fell in love with. If she wanted to know she would have asked him before now.
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Post by Blaque on Feb 19, 2007 13:30:09 GMT -5
I’m sorry, but I think this is a HUGE red flag. These people are about to get married and they don’t know basic information about each other like age? I mean, it’s a little thing, but it’s a big thing. What else does she not know about this man? This is why people get divorced…or worse, married to people they later find they don’t like very much. It’s impossible to know EVERYTHING about a person before you get married, but there is a lot of fundamental information that people should have. Personally, I don’t give these two five years.
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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 19, 2007 13:44:28 GMT -5
Sweetpie, I have to disagree....a few years diff may or may not make a diff in age BUT that is one of the many things I want to k now about a potential mate/dating partner is their TRUE age. What else is he letting her assume? Blaque, that is exactly what I am saying.
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Post by pelicanguy on Feb 19, 2007 14:22:12 GMT -5
Ain't no one to blame but herself. Why is that woman getting upset for? Instead of assuming, she should have simply asked him his age. How hard is that? He certainly wasn't gonna tell her unless she asked. Hell, I don't tell women my age unless they asked....and women don't tell me their ages unless I ask. It's possible he didn't know she assumed he was 48. This is what happens when you don't know the basics about your mate. Sounds like they didn't take the time to basically know each other. I don't think this marriage will last either.
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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 19, 2007 14:39:12 GMT -5
He knew it.....HE was the one who said she assumed his age was 48. And some people do readily volunteer their ages...SOME.
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Post by pelicanguy on Feb 19, 2007 14:50:17 GMT -5
Of course he said she assumed. She said she thought he was her age. How did she come to that conclusion? You know she likely told people he was 48 too.
I'd have said the same thing, plus "why didn't you just ask?"
The lesson here is you have to ask questions because people aren't gonna tell everything about themselves these days. You can't assume anything. You'll look stupid...like she did.
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Post by darock on Feb 19, 2007 15:04:29 GMT -5
One thing that has been PROVEN to me beyond a shadow of a doubt...when you are dealing with someone who treats basic information about themselves as something that is on a "need to know" basis, I GUARANTEE they have something to hide.
I was once asked, in response to a simple inquiry, "What's the big deal?"
My response?
"Exactly!"
I'm with Blaque...but I'm givin em THREE years...
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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 19, 2007 15:52:27 GMT -5
One thing that has been PROVEN to me beyond a shadow of a doubt...when you are dealing with someone who treats basic information about themselves as something that is on a "need to know" basis, I GUARANTEE they have something to hide. I was once asked, in response to a simple inquiry, "What's the big deal?" My response? "Exactly!" I'm with Blaque...but I'm givin em THREE years... YUP! I think people like that have something to hide too. BB, not that it matters now, but she is 43...she didnt assume he was her age of 43.
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Post by sudan on Feb 19, 2007 15:53:21 GMT -5
One thing that has been PROVEN to me beyond a shadow of a doubt...when you are dealing with someone who treats basic information about themselves as something that is on a "need to know" basis, I GUARANTEE they have something to hide. I was once asked, in response to a simple inquiry, "What's the big deal?" My response? "Exactly!" I'm with Blaque...but I'm givin em THREE years... I could see if a person didn't know....say....whether I like oatmeal or grits, or whether I snore loudest on my left side or my right, or whether I like oral sex ......but to NOT know something as simple as "AGE" ? somethin's up with that!!! ~ SERIOUSLY!!!!
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Post by lusciouslois on Feb 19, 2007 15:56:41 GMT -5
*snickering* that's what's up, Sudan!
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Post by dolphinfan on Feb 19, 2007 16:07:40 GMT -5
Ain't no one to blame but herself. Why is that woman getting upset for? Instead of assuming, she should have simply asked him his age. How hard is that? He certainly wasn't gonna tell her unless she asked. Hell, I don't tell women my age unless they asked....and women don't tell me their ages unless I ask. It's possible he didn't know she assumed he was 48. This is what happens when you don't know the basics about your mate. Sounds like they didn't take the time to basically know each other. I don't think this marriage will last either. Don't women lie about there age ALLLLL THE TIME!! .To me it's no bigg deal. nNow if other things came up, thats a red flag, but not this.
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Post by sudan on Feb 19, 2007 16:14:35 GMT -5
Ain't no one to blame but herself. Why is that woman getting upset for? Instead of assuming, she should have simply asked him his age. How hard is that? He certainly wasn't gonna tell her unless she asked. Hell, I don't tell women my age unless they asked....and women don't tell me their ages unless I ask. It's possible he didn't know she assumed he was 48. This is what happens when you don't know the basics about your mate. Sounds like they didn't take the time to basically know each other. I don't think this marriage will last either. Don't women lie about there age ALLLLL THE TIME!! .To me it's no bigg deal. nNow if other things came up, thats a red flag, but not this. HELLO!! These people are getting ready to COMMIT!!! .....to each other!!!We should know each other's shoe size ...talkin' bout not knowing your wife or huzband's age....
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Post by Blaque on Feb 19, 2007 16:16:37 GMT -5
Ain't no one to blame but herself. Why is that woman getting upset for? Instead of assuming, she should have simply asked him his age. How hard is that? He certainly wasn't gonna tell her unless she asked. Hell, I don't tell women my age unless they asked....and women don't tell me their ages unless I ask. It's possible he didn't know she assumed he was 48. This is what happens when you don't know the basics about your mate. Sounds like they didn't take the time to basically know each other. I don't think this marriage will last either. Don't women lie about there age ALLLLL THE TIME!! .To me it's no bigg deal. nNow if other things came up, thats a red flag, but not this. That’s a different situation entirely. This woman wasn’t lied to, she “assumed” she knew his age. This tells me that they are jumping into this marriage AND they don’t know enough about each other.
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